There's no need to start a thread to justify your own perverse hate of messy hair. As long as you don't try to ram your views down the throats of others, you wouldn't have had to start this thread to begin with.
The mesy hair bit is just one part of it. You have an eye for detail which is amazing, able to see how much tummies should be tucked in or how poorly a bikini fits. I would love to employ you for certain projects (eg product photography) where such attention to detail is essential. However, the way you put across your views makes it sound like a obssession and a crusade, which really turns people off. It is as if it's your way or the highway. Hence this situation, where you feel you have to start a thread to explain yourself.
The problem is not about defining what is messy hair, or poor fit bikinis, or one eye big one eye small. It's about why you seem to focus on minutiae that to the exclusion of other things, to the exclusion of the big picture. It's also about how you put your views across, the language and tone you use.
It is about the way you criticise people. It's because of remarks such as "even a 5 year old can do better" that makes things so difficult. That goes way beyond hyperbole and is meant to put down people, whether you mean it or not.
You may have the right to speak as you please, but as I've mentioned before, that comes with a cost, in this case, you make enemies, people who will go onto every thread you go to and criticise you, flame you, do everything possible in their power to make life miserable for you.
If you're polite in your criticism, I'm sure things would have turned out differently. It's up to you of course. Same goes for the other guy, too.
There are many ways in photography, not just your way or the highway. If you can put your views across while respecting other ways, things will work out easier. While people do not visit CS specifically to make enemies, if they do make enemies with you, they will go out against you. And that would be a great loss for both you and your enemies, because of the time wasted on unproductive sliming and conflict.
Logging into CS every hour (or day or whatever) to check if someone has reply to yet another personal attack or criticism or argument is in my view a very sad way to live.
Deadpoet said:
I still hate messy hair. But what is messy hair?
First of all, there are many beautifully done pictures out tyhere, where the model's hair is messed up. The big difference is that, the messed up hair was intentional. It is part of the look. Here lies the difference.
Messed up hair vs. messy hair. Messed up hair is part of a look. Messy hair is plain carelessness, lack of attention to details, and bad art direction.
What exactly is messy hair? We can only let the audience judge on a case by case basis. Every picture will be different. However, if the hairs are going in 9 different directions, chances are, it's messy hair.
The photographer, if taken the time to stand back and look, will always knows, the hair was part of a messed up look or is plan messy hair.