I think personally if this is your first DSLR it you shouldnt put too much thought into what to get. Just get a cheap 2nd hand old entry level kit like a d40/a100/canon/pentax/whatever, mess around with it for a few months while reading up and trying other peoples cameras.
Then once you know what you really want, sell off the old one for basically the same price you bought it and buy using your new educated preferences.
Honestly all major manufacturers (nikon,canon,sony,pentax,olympus) make great cameras which just handle a bit differently depending of peoples preferences, and none of us will be able to tell you what to get when even you yourself dont know what you're looking for in a camera.
If you're really unsure id say just get a 2nd hand d40/a100 since they're pretty much the cheapest(but still very good) among the entry level bunch. Personally i used messed around with an a100 for about 6 months until i decided to take the plunge and get a d300
Hope this helps