Will you stop your gf or wife from posting artistic nude photo of herself on web?

[soma]

Really. So you are confused. I am not surprised, can see it, had to rsort to "WTF" now. No worry, I can help.

Let me try to put it in more simple terms to you.

1. Jeaslous of what? Well that I might have a gf or wife, pretty enough and that the quality their nude pictures nude pictures is high enough, to be posted.
2. That she has such courage and open mind to do so.
3. That I have an open mind and confidence to not interfer.
Hope you are a little bit less confused.
4. NPNT. Well, we are talking in hypothetical here. We are not talking about specific. I am not proofing to anyone that she did it or not, I am saying I will let her. If she ever cme to me about this topic, I will definately encourage her to do so.

By the way, please continue to be jealous, if you like.

Hahahaha... SIAO

My wife are damn pretty so i won't be jealous of ppls like you which don't have one and when i though you already have the pichoo or what when you start to type those...

As i say NPNT .. you are not in the position to say anything about other when all you have is yourself and your camera... got shot yourself and post here la..

NPNT NPNT NPNT NPNT hope you can understand that...so please stop posting about how generous and encouraging or unhypocracy you are until then.

case close........:bsmilie:

 

[Deadpoet]

Hahahaha... SIAO:sticktong

My wife are damn pretty so i won't be jealous of ppls like you which don't have one and when i though you already have the pichoo or what when you start to type those...

As i say NPNT:kok: .. you are not in the position to say anything about other when all you have is yourself and your camera... got shot yourself and post here la..:bsmilie:

NPNT NPNT NPNT NPNT hope you can understand that...so please stop posting about how generous and encouraging or unhypocracy you are until then.:sticktong

case close........:bsmilie:

well, must the the eye of the beholder, unfortunately no one else found it beholding ... can prove me wrong.

as far as gf pics, it's up to her to post or not, not my decision. Beside, lots hae seen pictures I took of my gfs, I will leave it at that.

You dont know me, perhaps you should shut up! Friends, those who knows me knows where I stand on issues, including this one, and I have not waver a bit over the years. They comments I care about.

 

[soma]

well, must the the eye of the beholder, unfortunately no one else found it beholding ... can prove me wrong.

as far as gf pics, it's up to her to post or not, not my decision. Beside, lots hae seen pictures I took of my gfs, I will leave it at that.

You dont know me, perhaps you should shut up! Friends, those who knows me knows where I stand on issues, including this one, and I have not waver a bit over the years. They comments I care about.

er.. I don't give a damn about your stand:sticktong .. non of my business..I still prefer to be hyprocracy as you have said..:bsmilie: Sucker..:bsmilie: :bsmilie:

 

[Caspere]

Why The Fuss?

 

[marky]

Nope i will stop her..

 

[chirty]

i wouldnt stop it infact i would encourage her.

 

[soma]

This thing is very individual lor. Some will allow while other may not. Those allow please post :lovegrin: and those don't, just keep for your own viewing pleasure lor. (thinking will change, just remember that)Just don't be like those self proclaim noble act artistic As*Ho*e trying to tell people which is the right thought lor.:thumbsd: ( i not refering to anyone, just my thought)

 

[nicekid]

wah i think if my other half decided to do something like this i will break up on the spot.

 

[sykestang]

There are certain things we men can accept and cannot accept.

I used to 'over-posessed' my previous GF, at least that what she claims when she wanted to break off from me. Actually I find that I actually wanted to protect her from harm, cherish and love her... maybe I show it in a wrong way.

So the current one, I tends to let go too much, so much so that she now tries to do something which is going to hurt my feelings.

As such, my advise is that there are things that should be and should not be done. Use your heart to feel not logic as we are photographers ourself, that does not mean that we should allow our GF & Wives to post nude photos openly. Likewise, I also do not post any of my nude/artistic work openly online even with the model release to do so. However I'm not against my gf or wife to go and document their 'body', as long as I am around during the shoot and know the photographer myself which must only be 'females' in the studio including the photographer. Of cos I'll be outside the studio to safe guard the door during the shoot unless she allows me to be present in the studio. :bsmilie:

For men, the biggest feeling is regret. If god were to grant me 1 wish, I would ask him to take away the feeling of regret. Thus never do something that will make yourself regret in future. Especially that something you can have total control in the first place! This is from my personal life experience.

 

[plastic]

Being Asian, I don't think the men are ready to accept their wives/gfs taking nudes, much less posting them on the internet. At least I am speaking for myself. I don't like the idea of someone jerking off to the picture of my wife on the internet.

 

[zoossh]

You have to ask yourself a question first. Do you look and enjoy the nudes posted on the web? If you don't then you may have a stand to not let your wife or girl friend post nude pics on the web. However, if you do look and enjoy such images, on what moral highground do you have to forbid her from posting similar images on the web.

However, whether you look/enjoy nudes on the web or not, what gives you the right to forbid her from doing anything? You may not like or even hate some of the things she wants to do, that is your right to dislike and hate, but it's her right to choose what she wants to do.

Once you stop her from posting a nude image of herself on the web, what are you going to stop next? If you and your wife/girl friend is so far apart on this very fundamental issue, posting nude on the web, I dare not venture into other areas of your life, differences must be plenty and the chism wide.

And really, how are you going to stop her? Lock her up?

For me, I will say here, its her decision. The only thing is, if I took the picture, I should have some say if I wanted the picture posted.

i dun quite agree with that. many decisions between couples is not individual decisions but a joint decision or with some kind of understanding or compromise. an extremely self-centred person if insistent on his or her own decision which hurts his or her partner badly will require a very accomodating partner.

yes, one cannot lock her up. and yes it is her decision. but the outcome may not include acceptance and tolerance for some.

if a nude picture is secretly taken by someone who snipered it versus her actively seeking out such publicity, it makes hell of a difference. it is not becos a nude picture is taken that hurts the partner. it is one's selfishness and self-centredness against the wish and feelings of their partners in relevant matters that makes it a crucial point of conflict - and of cos if you feel nothing against such behaviours, there is no conflict for you.

 

[zoossh]

:thumbsup: agree, it's no longer a 'i do what i like thing' when one starts to make commitments to one's gf/bf or wife/husband. if not they are no different from strangers on the road.

i think ppl who hold a family and start to shoulder much responsibilities tend to have less of this "i do what i like, she do what she like, can be together than gd, can't be together never mind just break up" mentality.

 

[zoossh]

MEN are very stingy when comes to their private property...

so is women.

 

[zoossh]

Yes.. I think she needs a shrink too. The tiniest of things can trigger her, make her bonkers. She working there to her is to 'escape'. hmm
thx for the advice, I'll fix that.
Well, If I've only 2 choices, this compared to posing nude, I'd rather her pose nude. It's only an image.

of cos, i'm sure there are many problems worse than that. but again, it depends on individuals. some ppl are more liberal and they dun mind their wifes doing that, they are not wrong. some ppl are more protective over their intimacy portions and will mind their wifes doing that, they are not wrong either. the problem is when one thinks that the common rule can be placed in the same level for both parties.

 

[zoossh]

I'm sure some people here know my stance regarding the whole spg thing, which is it's no big deal
my girlfriend has had nude pictures of herself taken by a photographer in australia, and I myself have done nude photos of her.Would I like her to post it up on a site frequented by Singaporeans? No,because there is no appreciation for the human body as a beautiful form in Singapore, and the people who make noise about it being disgusting and immoral are many times those people who actually secretly look out for porn all the time
I wouldn't mind having it posted in an European context where the nude is not seen as disgusting and you'll actually find alot of nudes present in their advertising.

it's all about context.

i think some are sweeping statements. how do you not know that those who applaud about it not being disgusting and immoral are not also those people who actually secretly look out for porn all the time. the point is you won't know it and that does not matter since you won't know it. whether one are for and against it has little bearing on whether they themselves watches porn. of cos it is an irony but really there is no way of logic saying that ppl are find it digusting or ppl who find it not disgusting are themselves more moral or less moral.

i should say it is a mindset, and yet people in the same society lives in a world of shared mindset with much compromise with appropriate ppl. you dun find male ballet dancers, a naked 6 months old girl and a bare-bossomed balinese women a sexual provocating subject and our mindset has been set to that conformity to accepted shared norms. however, it is apparent of how ppl who is in the same norms deviate with other reasons. a young mother who expose her bossom does not carry the mentality of showing a sexual connotation aimed at seduction and public sexual attention, while a young female blogger showed her nude pictures aimed at attracting public sexual attention and led a life of prosmicuity - i think they are very different. and the response in the same society is reciprocal - ppl in general dun peep at these mothers or it could be a glance that quickly disappear into the back of the mind of a women without name and probably will not chance it again. on the other hand, the blogger who wanted to achieve the kind of attention truely gets the kind of attention she will get.

 

[zoossh]

Haha, ladies should answer the other way around instead of at the perpective of man. Change the question to

"Would you stop your Boyfriend or Husband posting artistic nude of himself on the web??"

i think perceptions of artistic nude covers to different anatomical extent in males and females..... so it depends....

 

[zoossh]

i think to a certain extent, there are many things the west is more liberal than the east, but liberal thinking is all but a relative thing, and it is not absolute on some grounds. i think more westerners will raise their brows about eating dog meat in some parts of asia, some based on the fact of how the animals are slaughtered, but some simply thinks that dogs in their society are pets and should not be eaten in other societies even if they are reared for such purposes and killed in the same way other animals are killed. i think in some instances, westerners with "liberal thinking" can be less accomodating as that is "in their rights" to do so.

in the old days when everyone taking a bus, if you make a request for the guy in front of you to close their windows as the wind is too big, you will most likely get an accomodating reply and action. i dun expect that when i go to london. after a while you will notice the differences, and you may be surprised that someone who is supposedly more liberal may not be someone who is easier to get along if you shared different social norms and values.

that "world class" education system..... is afterall just a political statement. it just goes to SHOW how GOOD is our current leading party, which means a SLANDER if you think they are not as GOOD as claimed.

art is a subjective value - i think art exists everywhere - an expression on one party or a sense on another party of aesthetics and meaning. so in life there are many things that is art. with regards to this "Most Singaporeans can't really appreciate art, at least not in the way westerners do.", i should say that some westerners can't really appreciate art, at least not in the way that Singaporeans do, as part of life. yes, if one views art as a higher form, something that is not within commercialism and something that takes up time, knowledge and effort, yes, maybe that is true but a direct correlation with affluence is always there. ppl who can't feed their basic needs in that society will of cos not be involved in art that is not a part of life and cannot be part of public commercialism.

I agree.

In western societies, nudity or semi-nudity is not seen as a big hoo-haa. It won't make headlines in any newspapers like in S'pore.

In Singapore, I have raised enough eyebrows and caused enough stirs by simply shooting gals in bikinis. Young and supposedly westernise Singaporean women have given me weird looks when I open my portfolio. You can imagine lingerie to be even worse, and if I publicly displayed my nude work, I'll be next in the news headlines!

Very roughly about 2 years ago, a young S'porean teen gal living in Simei made The New Paper front page for owning 50 bikinis! Come on, it's only bikinis for crying out loud. What next? Find a young gal who owns 50 g-strings?

Clearly, Singapore and many Singaporeans are still very conservative and uptight about showing skin. Many are pretentious about their claims that they are "open-minded" and "accepting" of liberal issues.

During the time of opposition MP Steve Chia's nude photo scandal, 2 local TV shows on Channel I and Channel U (if I recall the channels correctly) went on air about artistic nude photography in S'pore. In 1 of the programmes, the reporter did find out that Singaporeans harbour a hypocritical opinion about nudity. They (claim to) accept it, it can happen on others, but not on their own family members. (I recorded both programmes and had them archived into VCD format. I think it's the best publicised proof of the nation's hypocrisy.)

Singapore's highly boasted "world class" education system has its carefully censored unpublicised shortcomings. How much art is offered in schools? Despite all the efforts by the government to promote and improve the arts in S'pore, it has not reached the kind of level present in a western society. Moreover, the mindset of most Singaporeans are still along the lines of "art/sport has no future". Most Singaporeans can't really appreciate art, much less nudity in/as art, at least not in the way westerners do. The art we enjoy are most commonly are Hollywood blockbusters and porno movies.

I could make headlines (although negative ones) in S'pore by posting my nude work on the web but what for? To be labelled even more as a "pervert" by a majority of Singaporeans who know nuts? I rather do it if I know my audience are more mature and art-appreciative westerners.

 

[zoossh]

I don't like the idea of someone jerking off to the picture of my wife on the internet.

i'm not sure abt the westerners as i'm not one of them. but i have always wondered whether some speaks for the rest of them - does westerners mind and hate the idea of someone jerking off to the picture of his wife on the internet?

 

[mau_lovers]

MY GOODNESS - you are STILL TALKING ABOUT THIS?? Walau - when are you men going to GROW UP?? And treat women like PEOPLE - NOT OBJECTS?? Sigh ... what to do - we live in a PATRIARCHY ... Sigh ... this is still a ****ing man's world after all :angry:

 

[Deadpoet]

i'm not sure abt the westerners as i'm not one of them. but i have always wondered whether some speaks for the rest of them - does westerners mind and hate the idea of someone jerking off to the picture of his wife on the internet?

that is damn f*****g racist.