dont worry la .... heard of DIY "paperboxed bao" scandal in China, but yet to have a DIY "Creme bao" story ....:bsmilie::sweatsm:now that's crude.
but i'm sure he's done that.
that's why i'll never ask him dabao for me.
persistent wooer...help!
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Kudos to your girlfriend :thumbsup:. You've got yourself someone very special. Good luck mate.
:bsmilie: to add to her troubles, now clubsnap logging online have another bunch of persistant wooers
I read and read but couldnt understand if there's any hidden agenda to your statement :bsmilie:
Just my suggestion:
Have a chat with him but with some other friends around ( you should not be alone with him )
Let him know what you're uncomfortable with. ie: waiting for you at the lift lobby, his many work unrelated emails and sms, being overly concern about you, etc.
Let him know that every girl will find that a little scary, you included.
Tell him that the way it is right now, you feel that he's like a stalker and you fear for your own safty whenever he's around.
Tell him that unless he stops all this and gives you your breathing space, you can't even stand being in the same room with him much less accept him as a normal friend.
If he say, he's just concern about you, he just want to get to know you better, he just want to have a better working relation with you, etc, etc, you have to insist that, regardless of what is his reason, that is how he have created a sense of fear/disgust in you. If he ask you to just give him a chance to know you better and that you just don't understand him, tell him that every friendship is base on trust and a comfortable feeling around each other, now that he have created a feeling of fear and disgust in you, how to be friends? If he back off, and give you a few mths to get over your present feelings, show that he's not a persistant stalker, there may be a chance for you to accept him as just a normal friend.
Hope it helps
Have a chat with him but with some other friends around ( you should not be alone with him )
Let him know what you're uncomfortable with. ie: waiting for you at the lift lobby, his many work unrelated emails and sms, being overly concern about you, etc.
Let him know that every girl will find that a little scary, you included.
Tell him that the way it is right now, you feel that he's like a stalker and you fear for your own safty whenever he's around.
Tell him that unless he stops all this and gives you your breathing space, you can't even stand being in the same room with him much less accept him as a normal friend.
If he say, he's just concern about you, he just want to get to know you better, he just want to have a better working relation with you, etc, etc, you have to insist that, regardless of what is his reason, that is how he have created a sense of fear/disgust in you. If he ask you to just give him a chance to know you better and that you just don't understand him, tell him that every friendship is base on trust and a comfortable feeling around each other, now that he have created a feeling of fear and disgust in you, how to be friends? If he back off, and give you a few mths to get over your present feelings, show that he's not a persistant stalker, there may be a chance for you to accept him as just a normal friend.
Hope it helps
I was thinking more of death and destruction all over the place :bsmilie:
Anyway back to the topic, I still think an open honest conversation with that woo-er is best, what do u have to loose anyway?
If that guy say u mistaken (and thick skinned) and he just treat u like sista, the most is people will just suan you for awhile.
But if u let things continue, people might think that you're just using your looks to string him out and take advantage of that guy...
Have a one to one talk lor, (give him some chance to save face). If still don't listen then u have to do the 'extreme makeover' version like what the others says here.
Worst case scenario (last option?): u can let your boss know and have your boss talk to him coz its affecting your work... (boss):angry: :cry: (woo-er?)
As I've suggested in post#400, I think that it's better not to meet him 1 on 1. Reasons being:
You don't know what is going to happen in the 1 on 1 meeting as the guy seems a little unbalance/odd going by what jeanie have descripted so far
What if he don't take it the right way.
He may though that she's willing to meet him 1 on 1
You're trying to tell him how uncomfortable/insecure you are with him, yet you're comfortable/secure enough to meet him 1 on 1?
It's better to have someone else around so as not to give him the wrong idea
Withregards to letting him save face, she have already told him in his face to leave her alone and he's still doing all this.
Friends there can help to enforce her point.
Just my opinion and it's up to jeanie to consider.
You don't know what is going to happen in the 1 on 1 meeting as the guy seems a little unbalance/odd going by what jeanie have descripted so far
What if he don't take it the right way.
He may though that she's willing to meet him 1 on 1
You're trying to tell him how uncomfortable/insecure you are with him, yet you're comfortable/secure enough to meet him 1 on 1?
It's better to have someone else around so as not to give him the wrong idea
Withregards to letting him save face, she have already told him in his face to leave her alone and he's still doing all this.
Friends there can help to enforce her point.
Just my opinion and it's up to jeanie to consider.
It could turn into "Terminator 4 : Jeanie's Office"
:bsmilie: Actually this whole situation looks like the movie 'Something About Mary'. Jeanie, u should watch it to help you destress. Really nice.
Yeah.. now there are so many who is interested to see how this headless Jeanie looks like.. :bsmilie:. I think this is one of the fastest thread!!
Yah lor... I have only seen her from the back in a restaurant. Should have popped over to say hi.
pepper spray :think: .... who knows, he may get a high from it? Friend better, maybe one of the girls there have an interest in him? Problem solved on the spot!!!:bsmilie:
Just my 2 cents worth, I think u should just be (brutally) honest with him. He'll respect you for being so honest and you two can just be friends
At the end of the day, just let him understand that "mian qiang si mei yo xing fu" i.e things cannot be forced.. you don't like him means you don't like him.
4th time i have to repeat myself.
i DID.
5th time i repeat.
yes, i told him off.in the face, outright spoken, a big NO NO NO to the power of infinity.
he says i cant stop him from wooing me.it's his 'rights'.
5th time i repeat.
yes, i told him off.in the face, outright spoken, a big NO NO NO to the power of infinity.
he says i cant stop him from wooing me.it's his 'rights'.
It's not his right to stalk you though. the carpark behavior is already showing signs of it. Did he change his pattern today since you came to the office earlier?
Bro. I am congratulating you on having a fantastic girlfriend. As simple as that. She's one smart girl, who knew how to settle it the right way.
No hidden meaning or agenda. Apologies, if you saw something hidden in that statement.
Yah lor... I have only seen her from the back in a restaurant. Should have popped over to say hi.
i dine in restaurants every weekend.u can try your luck again.if it's family dinner, i will surely bring my cam with me.though it may not be d200 anymore.:bsmilie:
good luck!:kiss:
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