Will it works? Will tell her that, but my gf is not the type of thick skin, so dun think she is able to do that. Anyway, thanks again for your kind advise.
My dear sister Sue, from my own past experiences, seriously speaking, the money is as good as gone!
As long as there is no written note of the transaction, no one (including the law) can do anything to him and the irony is that the sucker knew this.
There are only a few other methods (which can prove to be very effective to some ppl) ...
1. as long as yr gf got "thin skin" she is not going to help herself much. If she is ok, and got the time, just keep going to his workplace and pester him for the return of the loan money and probably get his manager to witness him if he is willing to sign a confirmed loan form if he promise to pay by instalment in return for a peace treaty with her.
With this written confession, she can always use other methods to get back later.
2. employ an "ah beng" to go after that loan, but my estimate is that probably 30% - 50% will be expended out before you could even smell his money, and there is no guarantee as well, if he is really broke. The irony is that, if your gf is lucky, he may find her annoying and interrupting if he happens to be doing another round of "playing" with another gullible girl and may even "borrow" money from the next victim, and so able to pay yr gf off. This sort of "boneless" guys are plentiful (as well as countless girls) in our society.... take this as an expensive lesson. They even borrow from guy-friends, if they have a chance.
3. in this high tech society, and if your friend has a personal blog (if not, why not start one?) why not use the modern technology for help. She could, for instance, tell the stories and reveal his identity to the public and probably even post his photo (if the loan is true, i dont think anyone can fault her). This can prove to be very effective, not so much that he fears losing his face, but so much like he loses his chance to cheat another victim/s.
4. again, on this blog thingy (this one not so morally nice, but there are many real cases) .... ask yr friend to post a few of her very "charming" photos and "cry for help" .... i am sure that there will be hundred of willing helpers (from oversea as well) who are willing to sponsor her studies, propose to her, date her, etc... :sweatsm:
5. if the only pain she got from him is just a lost love and the $8k and probably some physical self-respect, then thanks God that she is now safe from him or else she might have lost her future home/life/savings/etc... if he has shown his true self many years later ....:bsmilie: