Is there Anyone think differently about why more and more Singaporean married adults don't want babies ?
For an example 50% of my friend don't want to have babies as they feel once they have one they would not be able to enjoy life and couldn't lead the life they wanted.
Below is what they think about having no life -
1)No time for each other after having babies,
2)With housing loans , car loan and so on , they say that they couldn't afford any more baby loans,
3)Career minded , No one to take care of the babies as their own Parents are working as well,
4)small animals are easier to manage than babies and they never give big problem
5)Lastly of course wait till they grow older, with more money
Personally I don't feel that it's wrong not to have babies , it is just a choice in a life process.
The people now care more about money than sex and others , as money buy them who they are, what they want and their so call Singapore dream(5C).Babies are not C so mentally it's not even in their dream picture .
The Gov. give baby Package but is it working ? Friends who has kids told me , its really better than nothing and when a friend tell me this , I know what he is saying is that the Baby Package can be better .
When one wanted to start a family , this Family need two happily married person to be in love - "Do anyone think love needs alot of money ? Personally I think when you talk about love , one doesn't need money to buy it "
Then it's their own nest which they want to build , a place they called it home where they can share their daily life with ."I believe everyone would prefer a nice and big house and for a good house , big money are what we are looking at , in this process can we smell any babies making opportunity ?? No and No ? The commitment for the couple are put in the house and surely one cannot afford not to be in the work force."
Next will be the Car dream , in Singapore, Car is being express as a form of Freedom , Car can control our time, can control the place we would like to go and let us have many activity with other car user ." And of course , Everyone dream car is a Big money spend as well "
Before even making the little one , most educated one will start taking out their calculator and start talking to their finance adviser and in the end after calculating their future child expense , do they still think Children is affordable ??
Please share your views if you have any ......
As for me I perfer a bigger HDB house than a small one because I dun like meeting the concrete wall too fast , it make me feel uneasy when the space is so small . Do anyone think that when you have kids you need more space for them to run around ?
Do you think the money we make are spend more on housing ?
Do you think if Gov. come up with more discount on housing for those who have children or those planning to have babies is good , does it mean that more couple will think about having one?
For an example if one couple is having one babies for the Country , the Gov. give a discount of maybe $20 000.00 to their new house and this money can help them to start a Family with kids at a lower spending cost to their housing and keep more cash in the CPF and when the flat is affordable , do you think at least one parent can relax and take care of the young one ? Do you think it's less stressful to manage a family with this Gov. discount ? But of course the sum of money discounted cannot be consider ours and when we sell the Gov. flat it will either be a return credit back to the Gov. or it can be use for our new bigger flat . Does it sound good ? Or does it sound it is just something we feel that the Gov. can do for us ? Parent who want children are awarded with huge step of discount by the Gov. and as far as I know it will certainly make an impact , giving a good population system as natural as possible , the money is still not ours but it do help us in the begining.
Gov. started with the Baby Package and I think it's really good . However the thing which this Gov. miss is a Good start for all the Parents , Baby Package help Parent with the Birth bills and the later education but they had miss the Starting Passion , having Babies are believe to be not just when you want you can have them , it is family building process as I have mention earlier , most people would prefer less costly to run a family with children , the cost is the housing , education and expenses so if this Gov can do something for the education I believe they can do something special for those who think that having children is always easy because the Gov. is giving them real discount for their contribution for this small Country :thumbsup:
I have wrote many , I may miss many important points but the rest is up to others who want to share their views. And ps ps only share what you think about the question I'm sharing orelse it will be waste of your time just reading and posting donkey post .
Cheers!!!
