Just to explain myself a little. I LIVE in Shanghai and this is generally the perception I have. To "lightbrush", I am glad your experience with Shanghainese are good... maybe you live in a part of Shanghai that I have not encountered. I am either at Qie Tu Lu or Xu Jia Hui area, so maybe the water is bad on that part of town in Pu Xi. I don't mean to offend anyone with the post, but to share my personal opinion.
My facts comes from living with them for years in Shanghai.
I am not generalising, more of a statistic point of view (personal). And maybe because I speak Chinese with a Beijing accent, that's why.
So chill my friend, you don't have to be so aggressive to defend the Shanghainese... I am more "northern" so I am naturally "biased" against the southerners (but their girls are pretty though)... ha ha ha... hey its Monday, don't let the blues get to us ok?
If you are Shanghainese, and your friends are offended by this, you can call me "stupid Beijing kuku" or whatever too... we should learn to laugh at ourselves... so chill lah...
My point is, once we understand the culture of the people and accept them, it becomes easier to live with them. Like living in heartlander Hong Kong in the New Territories, you get used to very loud talking people (I think I am a little influenced)... ha ha ha...
So Shanghainese tends to be generally cold when you do not know them (warm up slowly) but I have seen them (OP guys) give good service too, in the shop... they were talking like friends... but they have always been cold to me though... bleah... :sweat: My Beijing accent... the war of the north and south... ha ha ha...