tokrot said:
We had a heat argument just now. It seems like there's no turning back. She given me an offer again. We shall split the cost of legal fees of hiring one lawyer only and she's asking for no flat or maintainence fees.
I am afraid this time is for real, never expect to happen to me like that. I am requesting a week to consider....
At this moment, I believe talking will not help.
because both of you will raise your voice at each other.
Try writing....not now. But a few days later and for the content,
Please make all the positive points...not negative.
1) You must treat yourself as a neutral/humble person when writing this.
2) Appologies to her in writing. (We know it's hard for you to say it from your mouth)
3) Don't mention about her faults. (Don't say you forgive her for....it'll not help)
4) Tell your side of the story to her.
- when you first met, your feelings...being the luckiest man....bla..bla..
5) keep on appologise and tell her your mistakes.(at least she knows you realize your mistakes.(sometimes although is not made by you).
6) Admit it, we are man...we more or less have bad temper.
7) Do not beg for forgiveness as this will make her feel like a queen.
8) Put youself in a sad feeling rather than angry.
9) You can cry when you are writing the letter as this will help you express
you feelings more. (we are human, we do cry and there's nothing to be ashame about it)
10) Tell her your intention of writing this letter.
Again never raise your voice when talking to her. (talk to her in a sad manner)
If she scold you, just keep quiet and listen. (although you are innocent)
Treat this as a moment where it's the last time you'll be talking and seeing her
if everything doesn't work out. If she really choose to leave you. Set aside all
the negative thoughts about her and wish her to have a better life and find
someone who can give a what she want. And tell her you are sorry for
giving her a bad time.(still with a sad manner).
Don't make it too hard for yourself.
Being seperated doesn't mean the end of the world.
It could be the typical case where you are not meant for each other.
There could be someone better waiting for you.
Wish you all the best.