I am working in the military now.
To answer ur question Jeanie, you must know something very important. The army may pay u around $10 (LTC) $13k (S/LTC) which seems to be quite a lot, but theres a big reason for it.
You must know and the guy already know that he doesnt have value anymore when he retires at 40+ from the military --> It is super hard to find jobs elsewhere because his military experience is practically useless. And somemore at 40+ without practical experience, its ultra uber hard.
It is precisely due to the early retirement age, that is why the army pays u so high monthly salary --> the high monthly of 10k or 13k is for u to save up for the future when u retire at 40+.
However, another thing that u might be very interested ($$$$$$$), when the military officers retire at 40+, for a LTC or S/LTC, they could receive a lump sum payment of close to a million dollars for retirement. Is this million dollar amount sufficient to maintain the lifestyle of the both of you till around 80 yrs old for the both of you?
The LTC or S/LTC should have already save up a substantial amount of money so by the time he retires, he should probably have at least 500k savings? this 500k + 1 million = $1.5mil should be sufficient to maintain the lifestyle of most ppl.... but i am not sure abt u, considering u buy skylines, D3s, f2.8 lenses like buying popiahs...
After retirement from military, another option would be to convert to a DXO, but like what the rest had mentioned, normally they would take a paycut of 50% (arnd 5k or 6k), sometimes even more. By being a DXO, they can work till the statutory retirement age. And again to me, being still able to take home 5k or 6k at mid 40s onwards is already a very good thing, taking note that outside corporations wouldnt wan you.
Actually, to most ppl, to be able to command a salary of 4k/mth or 5k/mth is a very big thing. And to most girls, they would be satisfied and willing to settle down with a guy that could bring home a 4k/mth or 5k/mth salary. I mean this is for normal guys and girls with normal expectations.
I am not saying you are wrong to take the $$$$ factor of a guy as a major consideration when considering a bf/ future husband, but if u wan to settle down with guys that are outside of ur industry, you have to tweak ur expectations. Otherwise, hunt for guys in ur industry...
You might be heavily influenced by the ppl around you, and are used to ppl commanding 15k, 20k, 100k salaries, but you must understand and know that in reality, not every job/industry/career gives u 15k by mid-30s. Most ppl in Singapore are still stuck at 4k+, 5k+, 6k+ even though they are already at 40s or 50s.