Different folks.. different strokes la..
For me.. I've just gotten married last month. So.. my advice is.. unless u've saved enough, don't even think about it. I've saved 2-3 years for this event and it still feels heart pain when you see your savings of 2-3 years wipe out in one go. FYI, I'm earning about 3K take home now. Last year.. was only approx 2.5K the last was approx 2K.
Here's how much i've spent on the wedding.
Proposal Ring :- SGD$8K (My expense :- not from joint savings account)
Total : 8K
Wedding Bands :- SGD2K (From Joint Savings Account)
Total : 2K
Bridal Shop package plus top up :- SGD$5500 (From Joint Savings Account)
Total : 5.5K
Wedding Dinner :- Total damage after dinner approx SGD$5k.(30 tables @ SGD$740 each table - Gave Mum-In-Law 5+ tables) (From Joint Savings Account)
Total : 5K
Chinese Wedding Stuff ( PIN JIN (聘金
+ Cakes + Stuff) :- Borne by My Mum (Total ard 2K)
Wedding Day Ang Bao : - SGD$1.5K for me (not from joint savings account)
Total : 1.5K
Honeymoon :- Haven't go yet.. but.. Wife already demanded one around 10k. Saying it's once in a lifetime thing. (Joing Savings Account)
Total : 10K
Staying at my parents place :- New Room furniture(Wardrobe+additonal cupboard) - SGD$3K
New bed + mattress - SGD$2.5K
Lights, Curtans and additional fixtures SGD$500
Total : 6K
Total Expenditure for wedding :- SGD$38K
I'm lucky that i'm still debt free as we had enough in our savings. For a person that just started work, i don't think he can afford this at all. (mm... Maybe his parents is Ah Seah)
But one thing i think my friend said it correctly is that "things that can be sovled by money, the issue can be easily tackled"(Most of the time). Things that cannot be resovled by $$ is a bigger issue.
Please also remember this, "Do it once, do it well". You don't want your life partner to be grumbling about the same thing all your life (E.g. Last time we also never had wedding dinner... then i marry you liao). If you think your in-laws and parents have some expectation of something, and it's within your means, DO IT!! It's makes all happy this reduces a lot of frictions between the 2 families. The worse thing you can have is grouchy faces on your wedding day.