Lens choice is a pretty personal thing. OS? Do you regularly shoot at low shutter speeds at events? I don't, so it wouldn't matter to me - subject movement is more of an issue, and image stablisation doesn't help there.
I don't particularly like the Tamron -- it's a little lacking mechanically. Have no idea about that particular Sigma.
Personally, I'd only bother with an 'upgrade' to the Nikon 17-55/2.8. IMHO (and this is pretty subjective), Nikon flash exposure is more accurate with original Nikkors than 3rd party lenses. It varies -- when I used a D90, I had to regularly change flash exposure compensation when I switched from the Tamron 17-50 to a Tokina 11-16. Seems to be a non-issue on my current all-Nikon setup.