I would like to share with you my experience shooting my grandfather's funeral. First of all, I don't think there's any "pantang" shooting during funeral since none of my elder relatives mentioned anything. I was able to shoot freely even though I was actually involved in the funeral procession that spanned three days.
On the technical side, I just had my Yashica GSN rangefinder and a bagful of ASA400 B/W film that I needed to push one stop sometimes when the light level dropped too low. I didn't use flash and I would imagine that it's very rude and intrusive to use flash in this kind of situation. The barely audible soft shutter click of the rangefinder camera is also appropriate since any noisy mirror slap and whinning motors will definately get you out of business quite soon. My camera get banged around quite a lot and was covered with sweaty deposits and muddy crude after the whole thing, but luckily it was a cheap camera. So if I were using something more expensive, I would imagine that my heart will ache more than it was ! Hope this helps.
better ask lah. i think even the news photogs also ask and do it discreetly, like during the nicoll highway collapse. saw the news clips of the funerals. it seems they did it a long way off, unless interviewing the families.
but then.... people pay mahjong in front of the coffin... :think: