for me, i think falling in love cannot choose one leh. when seeing someone I love, it is naturally falling into love. i think i emotional type, love is not something logical which I can choose. why i have chemistry with gal 1 and not gal 2 is something I cannot explain.
Not all things have to be written down in black & white.
I'm not very sure how would ppl see it, but den again being nice is prolly a way of trying to please everyone and u'll end up with nothing since everyone ate a piece out of u cos u're so nice.
Ppl who backstab... well, its prolly their way of getting around and surviving in this world... to protect themselves frm being 'eaten' by others, being taken advantage of. Ppl tend not to approach u for favours if u're a nasty chap and vice versa.
Most human are quite selfish nowadays. For their own benefits, they don't care who you are. This type of ppl, will get back from those even more selfish. :bsmilie:
(Example is cyclist on pavement. Ring n Ring, where got such thing as you over take n warn other??? Cannot cycle on the grass for overtaking meh? Got bicycle think like having a ferrari. :nono: :angry: )
In life, I think experience will move you from one extreme to another, even if for a brief time. I've observed myself go from warm to ice-cold, and now I'm lukewarm...in this case that might actually mean indifference.
Although some people hate those who straddle the lines and are neither hot nor cold, I think that it is important to be able to compromise in some situations. At the end of the day, life teaches us many lessons and moulds us into who we are at the present day. Whether that present state is hot or cold is unimportant because it is certain to change in time to come.
There is no perfection in life. I had been stabbed in my back many, many times. Do I enjoy these stabs? Hell! No!
But I ask myself. What will do me more harm? What will damage me more?
Be cold and miserable - NEGATIVE - insular from all possible harm?
Or radiating warmth to those around you?
For me, I chose to be a person I like, even though I might get stabbed in my back occassionally. Looking back with half century experience (OK, less than half century - the first couple of decades might not count - maybe). What is the big deal, anyway? Things always appear worse than what it actually is.
But hopefully with experience, I can detect those rascally ways and avoid the back stabbing and being taken advantage of.
People will always fail us not matter how hard we try. Even mothers may fail their children. After all, are there perfect parents? But does that mean we should emotionally protect ourselves by putting on a cold barrier to detach ourselves from reality?
We are all social beings. We need to love and be loved. Alas, if only we can show this kind of love:
"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres"