i lost a 'friend' today.


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jeanie

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sometimes i wonder if speaking the truth, speaking your heart out, shooting what's in your brain is really wrong.

i use to admire this person's works.
just because i was too frank, too outspoken,
i believe i lost him as a friend, a fellow hobbyist.

maybe i should change my character and put on a mask with a fake pretentious smile?

i lost a friend today.and i'm sad.cos i value this 'friendship' very much.
:cry:
 

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sometimes i wonder if speaking the truth, speaking your heart out, shooting what's in your brain is really wrong.

i use to admire this person's works.
just because i was too frank, too outspoken,
i believe i lost him as a friend, a fellow hobbyist.

maybe i should change my character and put on a mask with a fake pretentious smile?

i lost a friend today.and i'm sad.cos i value this 'friendship' very much.
:cry:
u should say ' nice! good eye contact! sharp!' mah

u will have alot friends
 

sbs99

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maybe i should change my character and put on a mask with a fake pretentious smile?
its not about changing, as u said so yourself, it will be fake. Since you have already pinpointed your own shortfalls, why not just improve on it or tone down on the problem areas?

Hope that helps. =)
 

jeanie

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u should say ' nice! good eye contact! sharp!' mah

u will have alot friends
oh really?i would love to.but i really find it hard to only say the good things.
 

Redsun

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Well i believe its not wrong to speak ur mind.Its better to have a fren who's sincere n honest then someone who's fake n pretentious.Hopefully ur fren will see this and realise he/she has a fren who doesnt put on faces around him/her
 

Deadpoet

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sometimes i wonder if speaking the truth, speaking your heart out, shooting what's in your brain is really wrong.

i use to admire this person's works.
just because i was too frank, too outspoken,
i believe i lost him as a friend, a fellow hobbyist.

maybe i should change my character and put on a mask with a fake pretentious smile?

i lost a friend today.and i'm sad.cos i value this 'friendship' very much.
:cry:

cie la vie

it is unfortunate that this happened, but it is not the first time nor will it be the last time ...

at the end of the day, yu must be able to live with yourself, your own actions ... can you live with the fact that you sold out and put on a mask with a fake pretentious smile?

if it's a true friend, and you were merely telling the truth even if it's painul, the friendship should not suffer ...

if the friendship is lost merely because you were telling the truth, it is a freindship not worth maintaining ...
 

jeanie

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its not about changing, as u said so yourself, it will be fake. Since you have already pinpointed your own shortfalls, why not just improve on it or tone down on the problem areas?

Hope that helps. =)
can teach me how to improve on it?
 

Deadpoet

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its not about changing, as u said so yourself, it will be fake. Since you have already pinpointed your own shortfalls, why not just improve on it or tone down on the problem areas?

Hope that helps. =)
why is telling the truth a short fall?

must we hide all our opinions, must be sugar coat all our comments, must we be fake and insincere .... do I have to go on?
 

zcf

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I think it's not wrong to speak out what you think is true, but tactful may help to reduce the bad impact. Sometime we also need to respect what other people opinions also, which may be much different from one own.
 

jeanie

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Well i believe its not wrong to speak ur mind.Its better to have a fren who's sincere n honest then someone who's fake n pretentious.Hopefully ur fren will see this and realise he/she has a fren who doesnt put on faces around him/her
that's my philosophy in life.i dont like to be fake.
unfortunately, that's HOW i make 'enemies'.

it's hard being me.
 

sbs99

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why is telling the truth a short fall?

must we hide all our opinions, must be sugar coat all our comments, must we be fake and insincere .... do I have to go on?
im not disagreeing with you, yes i believe in honesty. But i do believe in tact as well. And yes i do not believe in sugar coated stuff as well. I can be as direct as i wanna be, but one through experience will learn when to "tarik back" and when not to.

:sweatsm:
 

jeanie

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cie la vie

it is unfortunate that this happened, but it is not the first time nor will it be the last time ...

at the end of the day, yu must be able to live with yourself, your own actions ... can you live with the fact that you sold out and put on a mask with a fake pretentious smile?

if it's a true friend, and you were merely telling the truth even if it's painul, the friendship should not suffer ...

if the friendship is lost merely because you were telling the truth, it is a freindship not worth maintaining ...

i guess so.
why do people always like to hear the good stuffs?
:dunno:
how can everything be so perfect?:dunno:
dont they even think?
:dunno:

oh well, it's hard being jeanie.
on the other hand, people pm me to tell me i give good comments for a newbie,
the other?i think twice about commenting in some threads.why?
i didnt come into cs to make enemies.
i really only wanted to share/learn about my passion in photography.

i'm seriously beginning to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
i was friggin bliind.
 

Rashkae

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I have many enemies too from being too honest. But I have many diehard friends too because I'm honest. I simply figure that the 20% that appeciated the "real" me are worth infinitely more than the 80% who only wanted to hear good stuff.
 

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i guess so.
why do people always like to hear the good stuffs?
:dunno:
how can everything be so perfect?:dunno:
dont they even think?
:dunno:

oh well, it's hard being jeanie.
on the other hand, people pm me to tell me i give good comments for a newbie,
the other?i think twice about commenting in some threads.why?
i didnt come into cs to make enemies.
i really only wanted to share/learn about my passion in photography.

i'm seriously beginning to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
i was friggin bliind.
u not blind, u haven't taste wat the real world is ;p
maybe 10 yrs later, u can tell us how ur current 'jeanie philosophy' works in the real world.
 

jeanie

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good luck to u in the 'real world' when u start working :)
esp in service line
errz, my dear friend.

i have been in the working world for .......ever since i've graduated.
and i'm doing very well.i really mean very well.
 

jeanie

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'Silence is gold....' :think:

Most of the time in life, they only want your ears not your mouth lor :bsmilie:
silence is golden?yes.

so maybe the admins and mods should ban ALL comments?
be it devilish crap or angel praises with regards to the pictures.

then everyone will be everyone's best friends.

make sense?
 

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