1. Talk to friends
2. Read Bible and pray
3. Write down all your feelings (diary or blog)
4. Go for walks by the beach (make sure no tsunami)
5. Shave your head bald and go stay in Tioman for a week with your best friend (I actually did this - got a sunburn on my scalp and the skin that peeled off had all these tiny perforations from the crewcut)
6. Exercise - go cycling
7. Spend more time with your family
8. Think about what went wrong so that you learn from the experience
btw, here's a list of stuff i did after it happend.
1. restarted my blog. (realised it's always unhappy then i go back to doing it)
2. went for a haircut and dyed my hair brownish red. (my colleagus and staffs gave me a stare when i went office)
3. Bought a clarion hdu for my darned vehicle and blasted retro music every now and then .
4. finish my day off sometimes with a cold tiger, numbs the senses and zzz very fast.
The loss of a loved one is one of the most traumatic experiences of life. In the aftermath, it's natural and indeed perfectly reasonable to feel negative emotions like sorrow, guilt, anger, and anxiety. During such times, it's essential to restore emotional well-being; to pick up the broken pieces of your life and move on.
If you've recently lost a loved one, by all means, grieve. Many people go into a state of denial after the shock, but the first step in the healing process is to allow yourself to feel the emotions deeply and mourn your loss. What you're feeling is normal.
During the grieving process, support from other people is crucial. Don't attempt to deal with the sorrow alone. Spend time talking to people who care for you and will empathise with you, like close friends, family members, or members of support groups you might be in or are able to join. If you feel that you really have no one to speak to, keep a journal. Just don't keep your grief unexpressed.
Be kind to your body and spirit. Get enough rest, eat well-balanced meals, and exercise. Exercise produces pleasure-inducing endorphins that aid your emotional recovery. Engage in activities that bring your pleasure and laughter, like playing with kids, listening to music, having a hot shower, watching a funny movie, splurging on that luxury you've always wanted, going on a holiday with a friend, and so on. Every little thing helps. Give yourself permission to be good to yourself.
Reinvest in relationships. Meet up with an old friend. Take a loved one on a holiday. Treat a colleague to whom you've never been close to a meal. Help a stranger. Talk to someone in need. Nothing heals the heart more than expressing love, making peace, building bridges, mending fences, and lending a compassionate ear. During times of loss, we all need to remind ourselves that there are other people we can love and who in turn love and appreciate us.
In the aftermath of losing a loved one, we can either give in to depression, hatred, and anger, or move towards peace and love. Through our thoughts and actions, we all can bring healing into what little parts of the world we can reach. We all have the opportunity to bring light into this darkness. Do we burn a candle or burn out?