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How to get over a heartbreak?


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afbug

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:bheart: is the reason why i'm here. :cry: Bought a camera to occupy myself.......it helps a little. :confused: I became single in Jul 04 and arrived CS in Aug 04.
 

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afbug said:
:bheart: is the reason why i'm here. :cry: Bought a camera to occupy myself.......it helps a little. :confused: I became single in Jul 04 and arrived CS in Aug 04.
Come on folks, not the end of the world... ;) Shoot more :)
 

whoelse

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alankuik said:
your fellow CSer just had his heart broken..... :bheart:


how do i mend it?
how to i live life?
how do i accept the fact that i'll not have her again
who then do i share my happiness with? not that i have any now

i feel as bad as those who've lost their loved ones in teh tsunami
for to me, the end of a long relationship, also is the same as losing my loved one forever.


in tears and many tears.
When u feeling sad, surf clubsnap for past time or go CP to buy the state-of-the-art mega thousand dslr. :sticktong
 

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by opening up is a good way to vent the nerves and negative feelings.

be release from a broken relationship isa good way to see one own behaviour and communciation with your partner.

be sad for now, its only natural that you just lost your partner.

be strong and learn from this relationship

hope you find someone better in life.

take heart pal.
 

kex

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It's her loss !!!

just go out with frds and keep urself occupied,it will be hard to forget just like that,but time will slowly heal la.
Usually 2wks is the window period,after that will get better.
 

Pablo

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Clown said:
drink kopi.
visit the NUG sometimes for equipment wanking sessions. sometimes it helps.
Hey Clown,
You are as subtle as being hit in the face by a brick :thumbsup: :bsmilie: :bsmilie:
 

Pablo

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Then start learning dude, wait till you see mine, then you'll know how bad a shooter I am compared too.

Take this opportunity, do not wallow in despair and sadness for too long, take this chance to go further and learn more in photography... we all start somewhere ;)
I used to have a complex about my HAPPY SNAPS

Then along came espn to the rescue :bsmilie:

Dude, as I have said before, "I would be happy to show results like yours".
 

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alankuik said:
your fellow CSer just had his heart broken..... :bheart:


how do i mend it?
how to i live life?
how do i accept the fact that i'll not have her again
who then do i share my happiness with? not that i have any now

i feel as bad as those who've lost their loved ones in teh tsunami
for to me, the end of a long relationship, also is the same as losing my loved one forever.


in tears and many tears.
Console yourself that you've lost only a girl not an expensive DSLR.
 

alankuik

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Sion said:
Console yourself that you've lost only a girl not an expensive DSLR.
frankly, i rather choose to loose the camera.

anyway, update guys.. as of today.. i guess i'm feeling a lil better as when compared to when i first posted this. thanks to u guys and my pals...
 

StreetShooter

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1. Talk to friends
2. Read Bible and pray
3. Write down all your feelings (diary or blog)
4. Go for walks by the beach (make sure no tsunami)
5. Shave your head bald and go stay in Tioman for a week with your best friend (I actually did this - got a sunburn on my scalp and the skin that peeled off had all these tiny perforations from the crewcut)
6. Exercise - go cycling
7. Spend more time with your family
8. Think about what went wrong so that you learn from the experience
 

megaweb

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1. keep busy
2. keep healthy
3. do your favourite things
4. occupy your time
5. join the CS outing or SEED and get socialised

after u feel settle down, think what went wrong in the pass and dun commit same mistakes again ...
 

alankuik

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Hmm... tuff to keep myself busy.

am feeling not so bad, considering this is day 12.
most of my frens are busy.. finish work already, go home oso zo bo.

*yawn*.

lucky still got here to tok **** wif u guys... and 'su ku' a bit....
 

alankuik

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btw, here's a list of stuff i did after it happend.

1. restarted my blog. (realised it's always unhappy then i go back to doing it)
2. went for a haircut and dyed my hair brownish red. (my colleagus and staffs gave me a stare when i went office)
3. Bought a clarion hdu for my darned vehicle and blasted retro music every now and then .
4. finish my day off sometimes with a cold tiger, numbs the senses and zzz very fast.
 

megaweb

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#34
alankuik said:
Hmm... tuff to keep myself busy.

am feeling not so bad, considering this is day 12.
most of my frens are busy.. finish work already, go home oso zo bo.

*yawn*.

lucky still got here to tok **** wif u guys... and 'su ku' a bit....
Join this coming Sat. Zoo outing. Mix around and be socialised :)
 

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alankuik said:
your fellow CSer just had his heart broken..... :bheart:


how do i mend it?
how to i live life?
how do i accept the fact that i'll not have her again
who then do i share my happiness with? not that i have any now

i feel as bad as those who've lost their loved ones in teh tsunami
for to me, the end of a long relationship, also is the same as losing my loved one forever.


in tears and many tears.
Don't be sad, maybe try supporting Liverpool........
 

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Recovering After Loss

The loss of a loved one is one of the most traumatic experiences of life. In the aftermath, it's natural and indeed perfectly reasonable to feel negative emotions like sorrow, guilt, anger, and anxiety. During such times, it's essential to restore emotional well-being; to pick up the broken pieces of your life and move on.

If you've recently lost a loved one, by all means, grieve. Many people go into a state of denial after the shock, but the first step in the healing process is to allow yourself to feel the emotions deeply and mourn your loss. What you're feeling is normal.

During the grieving process, support from other people is crucial. Don't attempt to deal with the sorrow alone. Spend time talking to people who care for you and will empathise with you, like close friends, family members, or members of support groups you might be in or are able to join. If you feel that you really have no one to speak to, keep a journal. Just don't keep your grief unexpressed.

Be kind to your body and spirit. Get enough rest, eat well-balanced meals, and exercise. Exercise produces pleasure-inducing endorphins that aid your emotional recovery. Engage in activities that bring your pleasure and laughter, like playing with kids, listening to music, having a hot shower, watching a funny movie, splurging on that luxury you've always wanted, going on a holiday with a friend, and so on. Every little thing helps. Give yourself permission to be good to yourself.

Reinvest in relationships. Meet up with an old friend. Take a loved one on a holiday. Treat a colleague to whom you've never been close to a meal. Help a stranger. Talk to someone in need. Nothing heals the heart more than expressing love, making peace, building bridges, mending fences, and lending a compassionate ear. During times of loss, we all need to remind ourselves that there are other people we can love and who in turn love and appreciate us.

In the aftermath of losing a loved one, we can either give in to depression, hatred, and anger, or move towards peace and love. Through our thoughts and actions, we all can bring healing into what little parts of the world we can reach. We all have the opportunity to bring light into this darkness. Do we burn a candle or burn out?
 

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What is Love?

What is love?

This question was once posed to a group of four through eight year olds. The responses received demonstrate how purely and profoundly children understand the world.

Here are some of them:

"Love is that first feeling you feel before all the bad stuff gets in the way."

"When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn't bend over and paint her toenails anymore. So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That's love."

"Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your french fries without making them give you any of theirs."

"Love is when someone hurts you. And you get so mad but you don't yell at them because you know it would hurt their feelings."

"If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend whom you hate."

"When you tell someone something bad about yourself and you're scared they won't love you anymore. But then you get surprised because not only do they still love you, they love you even more."

"During my piano recital, I was on a stage and scared. I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling. He was the only one doing that. I wasn't scared anymore."

"Love cards like Valentine's cards say stuff on them that we'd like to say ourselves, but we wouldn't be caught dead saying."

"You really shouldn't say 'I love you' unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget."
 

kevyan

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Friend, it's really not the end of the world.

I would suggest that you don't count the number of days passed.

What's gone is gone. If she is the 'One', she will be back. If she is not, this past relationship served as a lesson in life for you.

I ever broke up with my wife-to-be now for about 1 1/2 years. During then, my life was haywire... did things which I normally would not do.

But I prayed a prayer. I told God, "Lord, if this relationship is meant to be, keep the love alive for the both of us".

And now, after coming to 10 years, we are getting married in May.

Never give up Hope. There is always someone out there prepared for you, so prepare yourself too for that someone.

'Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you your heart's desire' - Psalm 37:4
 

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i think you've got more than enough advice here. now the difficult part is heeding them.

time heals. and if you want time to go pass quicker, you have got to keep yourself busy.. time flies when we are busy.
 

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alankuik said:
your fellow CSer just had his heart broken..... :bheart:


how do i mend it?
how to i live life?
how do i accept the fact that i'll not have her again
who then do i share my happiness with? not that i have any now

i feel as bad as those who've lost their loved ones in teh tsunami
for to me, the end of a long relationship, also is the same as losing my loved one forever.


in tears and many tears.
Go get laid! :thumbsup: :lovegrin:

You'll be thankful that you have lost your relationship ;)
 

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