Yellow Ribbon

Hosea · 1st October 2004

Just bought this Yellow Ribbon from an elderly lady this morning..felt a strong urge to support this Yellow Ribbon event.

hori · 1st October 2004

Hey I took a similar picture on your computer screen too!

fastlane · 1st October 2004

Originally Posted by Hosea

Just bought this Yellow Ribbon from an elderly lady this morning..felt a strong urge to support this Yellow Ribbon event.

Good for you. I've got one too. Will be wearing it next week.
I think it's a small gesture to show, how much we support their rehabilitation.
I pray that more people will do the same.

Hosea · 1st October 2004

Originally Posted by hori

Hey I took a similar picture on your computer screen too!

ooooh.. how you took a photo on my computer screen...

You meant your computer screen ,right?

Hosea · 1st October 2004

Originally Posted by fastlane

Good for you. I've got one too. Will be wearing it next week.
I think it's a small gesture to show, how much we support their rehabilitation.
I pray that more people will do the same.

Good, truly we must support this ...

beautiful · 2nd October 2004

hey

is that a Toshiba TE2100?

Hosea · 2nd October 2004

Originally Posted by beautiful

hey

is that a Toshiba TE2100?

Ya Toshiba Tecra....u have one too??
haha... did you see the yellow ribboh?

filker · 7th October 2004

Being a ex-convict in Singapore is tough. It is as effective as being branded a society scumbag for as long as my existence in Singapore. I have been rejected too many times because of this stain in my resume. I decided to opt out of the normal routine 8 to 5 jobs. I guessed my related work experience pales in comparison to that stain. I regretted much of a one-time folly that ended my dreams. I promised myself to change for the better, singled-minded in establishing my career and family.

“One is dead and the other is living, of course I have to think for the alive one”, my mum told me as a matter of fact. That sentence really pricked me. Her later statements were worse than the first. I realized that I am just a guest staying in ‘his’ on compassionate grounds. My mum decided to pull him out of the debt pit once again, with the savings from the sale of our old flat.

“Of course I have to help him pay the debts. He’s having a very difficult time,” she claimed. I always knew she had a preference for him, but her persistent defense for him seemed to grow overboard. We sold our house a few years ago just because of his selfishness. He incurred a huge debt of 50k in less than 2 years after his graduation. My parents decided selling the house was the only solution to keep his prospect safe and smooth sailing. He never changed; he enjoyed the high life despite our family’s unstable financial stand. My dad’s business was doing badly and my mum was earning on a part-time job as a home cleaner. I was in the National Service and I gave part-time tuition to help support my expenses. I was a spendthrift, spending whatever I had earned. “He” didn’t seem to care about money. He indulged in good food, company and spend, as he liked. Some of his doings really irked me. He would buy a product from a place that will cost more than other places offering similar products. Summon tickets are rampant because of speeding, illegal parking, driving into a restricted zone without paying, etc. Sometimes, these fines compounded because of late payment. To me, he is an irresponsible and selfish person that isn’t bothered about money because he knew someone would help him with his debts. What a jerk.

I was raised in a modest family. My brother and I never really were on good terms. We were more like strangers having similar surname. We both studied under reputable schools and the only difference was- he graduated with a bachelor degree and I failed. I had a relatively good academic record, but all changed when my immaturity led me to my present state. Perhaps, it was the strict home discipline that lured me to the open temptation of freedom. I neglected my studies in favor of partying.

I have to rely on myself now. I am trying very hard now to carve a future for myself. I knew my mum would not leave me anything because of whatever little she has; she would give it to him. As quoted from her: I am staying here because “he” is allowing me to.

To live in Singapore is very tough. The high standard living contributes to this fact. I did some calculation and found myself in dire situation if I were to live on my own. It is like in a quicksand, waiting for my final downfall. I had to plan for myself. It’s tough-going to live as an ex-convict in Singapore and worse, without a future shelter.

I will live.

Astin · 7th October 2004

There is always a question whether a society should give a second chance to the Yellow Ribbon group. For me, I find it very hard to believe a person can change from bad to good. (Its more common to change from good to bad.) I was cheated by a close friend, I wanted to report Police, I knew I would ruin his life and his family's life. But if I dont, I would let loose this animal in the society, and maybe he would go on and cheat more victims.
Why second chance?

Hosea · 7th October 2004

Hey filker,
Thank you very much for sharing with us .
Do press-on even though life would be very tough.Find a niche for yourself and live up as what you said.

Press On!!

Hosea · 7th October 2004

Originally Posted by Astin

There is always a question whether a society should give a second chance to the Yellow Ribbon group. For me, I find it very hard to believe a person can change from bad to good. (Its more common to change from good to bad.) I was cheated by a close friend, I wanted to report Police, I knew I would ruin his life and his family's life. But if I dont, I would let loose this animal in the society, and maybe he would go on and cheat more victims.
Why second chance?

Difficult to believe , but there are.. so give a helping hand for those that repented and sincerely need a second chance.
They all yearn for second chance.
Pin your yellow ribbon today.

Bernard Ong · 7th October 2004

I bought the yellow ribbon. My stand is:

We are all Singaporeans. If we do not give them a second chance, who will? Everyone is a sinner regardless of how bad the sins are.

I emphatize with Filker on his background and is impressed by his determination to keep striving for a better future. Do not give up. Its never too late to change for the better.

1st October 2004	#1
Hosea Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Singapore Posts: 4,673	Yellow Ribbon Just bought this Yellow Ribbon from an elderly lady this morning..felt a strong urge to support this Yellow Ribbon event. Last edited by Hosea; 1st October 2004 at 11:23 AM.

7th October 2004	#8
filker New Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 1	ex-con Being a ex-convict in Singapore is tough. It is as effective as being branded a society scumbag for as long as my existence in Singapore. I have been rejected too many times because of this stain in my resume. I decided to opt out of the normal routine 8 to 5 jobs. I guessed my related work experience pales in comparison to that stain. I regretted much of a one-time folly that ended my dreams. I promised myself to change for the better, singled-minded in establishing my career and family. “One is dead and the other is living, of course I have to think for the alive one”, my mum told me as a matter of fact. That sentence really pricked me. Her later statements were worse than the first. I realized that I am just a guest staying in ‘his’ on compassionate grounds. My mum decided to pull him out of the debt pit once again, with the savings from the sale of our old flat. “Of course I have to help him pay the debts. He’s having a very difficult time,” she claimed. I always knew she had a preference for him, but her persistent defense for him seemed to grow overboard. We sold our house a few years ago just because of his selfishness. He incurred a huge debt of 50k in less than 2 years after his graduation. My parents decided selling the house was the only solution to keep his prospect safe and smooth sailing. He never changed; he enjoyed the high life despite our family’s unstable financial stand. My dad’s business was doing badly and my mum was earning on a part-time job as a home cleaner. I was in the National Service and I gave part-time tuition to help support my expenses. I was a spendthrift, spending whatever I had earned. “He” didn’t seem to care about money. He indulged in good food, company and spend, as he liked. Some of his doings really irked me. He would buy a product from a place that will cost more than other places offering similar products. Summon tickets are rampant because of speeding, illegal parking, driving into a restricted zone without paying, etc. Sometimes, these fines compounded because of late payment. To me, he is an irresponsible and selfish person that isn’t bothered about money because he knew someone would help him with his debts. What a jerk. I was raised in a modest family. My brother and I never really were on good terms. We were more like strangers having similar surname. We both studied under reputable schools and the only difference was- he graduated with a bachelor degree and I failed. I had a relatively good academic record, but all changed when my immaturity led me to my present state. Perhaps, it was the strict home discipline that lured me to the open temptation of freedom. I neglected my studies in favor of partying. I have to rely on myself now. I am trying very hard now to carve a future for myself. I knew my mum would not leave me anything because of whatever little she has; she would give it to him. As quoted from her: I am staying here because “he” is allowing me to. To live in Singapore is very tough. The high standard living contributes to this fact. I did some calculation and found myself in dire situation if I were to live on my own. It is like in a quicksand, waiting for my final downfall. I had to plan for myself. It’s tough-going to live as an ex-convict in Singapore and worse, without a future shelter. I will live.

1st October 2004	#2
hori Member Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Singapore Posts: 235	Hey I took a similar picture on your computer screen too!

2nd October 2004	#6
beautiful Member Join Date: Nov 2003 Posts: 258	hey is that a Toshiba TE2100?

7th October 2004	#9
Astin Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: Astin Studio Posts: 4,724	There is always a question whether a society should give a second chance to the Yellow Ribbon group. For me, I find it very hard to believe a person can change from bad to good. (Its more common to change from good to bad.) I was cheated by a close friend, I wanted to report Police, I knew I would ruin his life and his family's life. But if I dont, I would let loose this animal in the society, and maybe he would go on and cheat more victims. Why second chance?

7th October 2004	#12
Bernard Ong Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Posts: 407	I bought the yellow ribbon. My stand is: We are all Singaporeans. If we do not give them a second chance, who will? Everyone is a sinner regardless of how bad the sins are. I emphatize with Filker on his background and is impressed by his determination to keep striving for a better future. Do not give up. Its never too late to change for the better.