9th May 2004, 12:55 PM
My suggestion is that you can cry it out or laugh it out. This is life's journey. A lot of times, is not the end that matters, is the journey, the process. Maybe through this life's lesson you may grow and learn faster.
Playing sports may be a good way too. Think of what you want to pick up but do not have the time/chance to do it. Well, or pick up your camera and go shooting.
If you see a pscyhiatrist, you may not be given prozac yet unless is really severe depression.
Talk to your friends and loved ones.
Anyway, work is only a means to get the $$ for your "true life" (photography for example).
Anyway, I have 2 weblinks to share with you.
Go out and enjoy your Sunday.
9th May 2004, 01:08 PM
You think you can find a solution in a public forum? My advise? Go to the roof of a very tall buildinf and look down. You will see how minutesque your problems are.
9th May 2004, 01:15 PM
lolzz dude..that is dangerous suggestion
Originally Posted by Minoxman
9th May 2004, 01:25 PM
9th May 2004, 10:59 PM
Originally Posted by rapidmax
I am surprised that you asked what has happened to me 4 months ago. By the way, thanks for your detailed reply.
What really happened to me actually can track back a year ago but to sum it all up, I was betrayed by a supposedly "good friend", I was pushed into a pile of mud and later being accused of filthy. I was too gullible and too inexperienced to see it coming. It's just that since January rumors in school about me has grown out of porpotion and yes you were correct, it depresses me very much.
Just a note, I am still a student who is about to graduate soon, that's if I passed all my exams.
I know in the dog-eat-dog, cruel society world office politics exists in our daily lives but believe me, the office polictics in my school is simply sickening.
After what has happened to me, I have developed a hopefully temporary phobia of relationships. IMO, I feel every kind of relationship in this world can go sour, except for the relationship between parents and their children, especially the love given to a child by their parents. Children WILL betray their parents for money (we see that often in papers) but parents will never ever betray their children.
However thankfully, I felt slightly better after talking to my mom over the weekend, who's my best friend in this world. Besides, I am graduating soon so I guess that is something I am looking forward to - a new stage in my life.
Anyhow, many thanks to the fellow CSnappers whom replied to this thread. It has provided me some mental relieve after reading through the thread.
9th May 2004, 11:02 PM
9th May 2004, 11:02 PM
9th May 2004, 11:21 PM
10th May 2004, 12:03 AM
Originally Posted by mich_2103
No problem. I dunno whether your story is in riddles or whether it is what actually happened but seriously, there are two things here: you might think that people are talking about you but most of the time people dun really give a sh*t. Second, if they are talking about you then I fear that it is a life skill: not to listen to what they say about you if they are not the people who really matter to you and to just stick with those who know you and who will not judge you from your appearances.
Everyone gets backstabbed by one's great friends. So? does that mean that you stop having friends and stop trusting people? It's quite a heavy price that everyone (potential friends and existing friends) has to pay because one person screwed up, dun you think? And look at it another way, each time you are pushed in the mud, you gain from the experience, next time you will not fall into the mud again. But now that you have this experience you stop trusting people, so you put the experience in the cupboard, instead of using it. kinda wasted, right?
You are wrong to say that parents cannot betray their kids, read more about forced marriages, selling off kids into prostitution, getting kids to work and not go to school... Then you will find out that y ou cannot really trust anyone. So do you shut yourself up and build walls? This is hardly a solution because each time you feel betrayed you will build thicker walls and one day you will find yourself alone and lonely.. very unpleasant thing, believe me.
Try to diversify and to learn to know more people and to have more friends, one backstab you then the others support. The school spread rumours about you (and that means that they got nothing better to do and suggest what kind of interesting life they are living anyway)then you got your friends who know you and who know what happened and appreciate you, so how do you care?
Come on man... time to get out of the bad clouds and embrace life... it is short, might as well live it and not waste some of the time because some dudes think this or that about you.
Last edited by rapidmax; 10th May 2004 at 12:06 AM.
10th May 2004, 10:24 AM
10th May 2004, 10:40 AM
On a serious note, there are many things in our life that we cannot control. But what we can control is our frame of mind and our reactions/perceptions to these things. I know that it is easy to say/write but is a hard thing to do. Another way of looking at things is that the knocks in life makes us stronger. The mind set that you build to tide you thru these bad patches could be a blessing in disguise... it'll bear you well thru any low times in the future..
Thought for the day:
"A master and his disciple are riding across the Saudi Arabian desert. The master makes use of every moment of their ride to teach the disciple about faith. "Trust in God," he says. "God never abandons his children." At night, in their camp, the master asks the disciple to tie the horses to a nearby rock. The disciple goes to the rock, but remembers what the master has taught him: "He must be testing me," he thinks. "I should leave the horses to God." And he leaves the horses unfettered. In the morning, the disciple sees that the horses have disappeared. Revolted, he comes back to his master. "You know nothing about God," he exclaims. "I left the horses in His care, and now the animals are gone." "God wanted to care for the horses," the master answered. "But to do that, he needed your hands to tie them."
10th May 2004, 04:31 PM