you make me laugh. what happens to your word when you take marriage vows, etc? the simple reason why both feel happy in the end is that because they were lucky. for every happy story there are 8 unhappy stories with broken families. just because the kid with a stanford degree did well in life doesn't mean that he is happier than if he had a complete family in the first place. of course, maybe he is happier now, but i will never understand why people marry when they cannot commit to the other half. if you do not know yourself, then you shouldn't marry until you know. simple as that.