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    Quote Originally Posted by pokiemon View Post
    have kids to beat them!
    photoshoot them, very lovely to photoshoot.

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    no wonder ppl say photographers r violent..
    1. They shoot u.
    2. They frame u.
    3. They hang u..



    the day i saw my mum so sick, lying on hospital bed, i immd regretted having children. If my mum had passed away before i had children, guess i would be childless now.. Cos e pain i had was unbearable, i don wish my children to feel e same when Im old n sick..

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mascaporne View Post
    What's the point of having kids?
    Because our leaders ask us to have kids.

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    It's very normal for a guy to think this way. Unless you are the homely type. It's usually the ladies who want to have kids. Unless they are not capable of maternal instincts.
    Last edited by sensornoise; 16th December 2009 at 11:49 PM.

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    I probably won't have kids too, becos of a single most compelling reason: fear of what they may turn out to be. Its easy to like kids when they are cute and cuddly, but what if they aren't? Down's syndrome? Autistic? Abnormalities?

    No chance of it happening to u? Pls don't count ur chickens before they hatch.

    Or simply not as cute? I have an uncle whose not-so-adorable child is constantly compared (and contrasted) to a far cuter baby belonging to another aunt. Do you know how terrible it feels?

    What if they fall into bad company when they grow up? Not as smart? Not sociable? Not athletic enough? Dropout of school?

    What if they abandon you when you are old and defenceless? YOU NEVER KNOW.

    No offence to anyone, and not to discourage anyone from having children, but at least for me, with so many uncertainties in life, the reasons for having children simply becomes less compelling.

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    seriously i think most people have kids for selfish reasons - so that their children will take care of them when they get old.

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    Quote Originally Posted by pokiemon View Post
    seriously i think most people have kids for selfish reasons - so that their children will take care of them when they get old.
    I guess u hit the nail .....
    Most ppl want kids to satisfy themselves...

    I can understand , if the "object" is a pet or something else.
    But it's like... its another human being on this planet.

    Why do we feel the need to bring another being to this planet?

    Is there... a reason to this cycle?

    Could we live a fulfilling life in this world with another partner happily without kids??

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    People also dun want kids for selfish reason - want to keep money for themselves , dun want the trouble and responsibility , want freedom for themselves. Don't u think so too?

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    If 100% of people on earth dun want kids, whAt will happen in 100 years later? The earth will be void of humans and only contains animals and plants. And no one to do landscape, animal, floral photography!

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    what's the point of having a DSLR and keep investing on it?

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    Quote Originally Posted by LenzLaw View Post
    Or simply not as cute? I have an uncle whose not-so-adorable child is constantly compared (and contrasted) to a far cuter baby belonging to another aunt. Do you know how terrible it feels?
    This is true, which is why I always tell my friends and relatives, don't compare the kids. Esp infront of the kids. If the child already 18 months or more, they may not express it but they understand what you trying to say.
    Even if the child cannot understand, their parents will.

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    Quote Originally Posted by adorable View Post
    People also dun want kids for selfish reason - want to keep money for themselves , dun want the trouble and responsibility , want freedom for themselves. Don't u think so too?
    Hmm... u mean we all have an obligation to share money with a human being that does not exist yet?

    I dunno the definition of the word "selfish". But certainty if u do not have a kid yet and do not want a kid, it's not called selfish.

    The kid did not exist yet, and if i want the money for myself, am i selfish?

    Actually, i'm just trying to keep the argument going forward, I'm actually want a kid. But I just want to gather thoughts on ppl.. on the reason for having a kid.

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    having kids is fun and also tiring, unless u have one, hard to explain.

    1. will u enjoy walking and fetching ur kids to school?
    2. will u enjoy watching ur kids taking first step?
    3. will u enjoy waking up middle of the nite becos ur kids wake up and cry?
    4. will u enjoy the moment they hang on u when u reach home?
    5. will u enjoy sacrificing ur time to spend with them? outings, eating, teaching them etc?
    6. will u enjoy been unable to concentrate on work at home?


    the above is just part of it. of course, unless u experience it, else hard to absord.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LenzLaw View Post
    I probably won't have kids too, becos of a single most compelling reason: fear of what they may turn out to be. Its easy to like kids when they are cute and cuddly, but what if they aren't? Down's syndrome? Autistic? Abnormalities?

    No chance of it happening to u? Pls don't count ur chickens before they hatch.

    Or simply not as cute? I have an uncle whose not-so-adorable child is constantly compared (and contrasted) to a far cuter baby belonging to another aunt. Do you know how terrible it feels?

    What if they fall into bad company when they grow up? Not as smart? Not sociable? Not athletic enough? Dropout of school?

    What if they abandon you when you are old and defenceless? YOU NEVER KNOW.

    No offence to anyone, and not to discourage anyone from having children, but at least for me, with so many uncertainties in life, the reasons for having children simply becomes less compelling.
    You shouldn't leave the house the, so many uncertainties: you may get hit by car, fall off MRT track, struck by lightning etc...

    I come from an old skool family where the cuter the kid is, the more we say he/she is ugly to ward off jealous spirits.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LenzLaw View Post
    I probably won't have kids too, becos of a single most compelling reason: fear of what they may turn out to be. Its easy to like kids when they are cute and cuddly, but what if they aren't? Down's syndrome? Autistic? Abnormalities?

    No chance of it happening to u? Pls don't count ur chickens before they hatch.

    Or simply not as cute? I have an uncle whose not-so-adorable child is constantly compared (and contrasted) to a far cuter baby belonging to another aunt. Do you know how terrible it feels?

    What if they fall into bad company when they grow up? Not as smart? Not sociable? Not athletic enough? Dropout of school?

    down's syndrome is also one of my primary fears, it can be detected early but it will more or less create some emotional strain on your other half if she needs to abort it, that's when you need to be there for your wife.

    the comparing matter...unfortunately until now i'm still being compared to my cousin who is just one year older than me from (primary sch>sec sch>poly>working life)...frankly speaking, is not a very nice feeling to stomach and your parents just keep having the soup grapes.

    one of my younger cousin got involved with some bad company from my former secondary sch (same sch as me).
    in the end, his dad left with no choice, filed a "beyond parental control order" then my cousin got thrown into boy's home.
    apparently, my cousin also got some records for petty crimes under the age of 16.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Mascaporne View Post
    Recently, I had a chat with my bro.
    He's very determined to not have a kid.
    And so, I keep probing him.. why?

    And he said.. he's been asking around ppl around him the question
    "What's the point of having a kid?"

    The more i pondered, the more i think,... seriously, is there a point??

    Is loneliness a good reason? (seems like it's a fear, rather than a reason)
    To keep the marriage? (that seems even more like insecurity than anything)
    To follow crowd?
    Because that's what everyone does??

    Hmm.. does anyone have a good answer to this question?
    why don't you ask your parents that question.
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    Default Re: What's the point of having kids?

    just remember

    how you treat your parents today
    will be how your child will treat you when you grow old

    kids learn from their surroundings, you can control that

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    Default Re: What's the point of having kids?

    Quote Originally Posted by ortega View Post
    just remember

    how you treat your parents today
    will be how your child will treat you when you grow old

    kids learn from their surroundings, you can control that
    I second this statement 100%.

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    Quote Originally Posted by adorable View Post
    If 100% of people on earth dun want kids, whAt will happen in 100 years later? The earth will be void of humans and only contains animals and plants. And no one to do landscape, animal, floral photography!
    And if the Earth isn't totally wrecked by then, it might have a chance to heal itself.

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    Default Re: What's the point of having kids?

    General Comment : then why were YOU born in the first place ? you're a total nuisance, inconvenience and waste of everyone's time, money and effort ?
    Last edited by ed9119; 17th December 2009 at 01:10 PM.

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