if i were to have a maid...
on 2nd thoughts.
and if i were to bring her out with the family.
we would go to a restaurant what would serve halal food or at least we would go to a muslim restaurant for a meal... and let her choose what she liked to eat. and of course reward her for her hard work for that 1-2 weeks kind of thing...
i mean. even if shes a "maid", theres also a need to treat others nicely.
Why is this a debatable issue?
A maid,holds the similar boss-employee relationship that you share with your higher-ups in your company.Do they make you stand outside the restuarant while they enjoy their meals?Do they physically abuse you?
its saturday.... sometimes... over reliance on maids are just too much...
for me... sometimes i do not understand why there is just why some people rely on maids that much ?
i've seen families in singapore who have 5-6 kids and they do not have a maid, and the husband and wife takes control of all of them equally well, and although some of them misbehave, but they look happy to start with.
so far.... i believe they are one of the most happening families i've seen.. 5 kids and theres no such thing as "hell break loose" for them.
thats exactly why i go for non muslim domestic help. Even for those from indonesia, there are some who are christians like mine so food is not a problem.
For me, i really see no need to make her wait outside. just eat together lah, knn safe a few $ cannot get you a L lens lah. And its like a small reward for them for taking care of the family's needs so why fuss about it? I even pay for my domestic help's expenses when the family travel and bring her along.
I am not rich but i just like to put myself in a position and think if my boss treats me bad, how would i feel and i dun want my helper to feel this way especially if you are going to put your kids in their care right?
I never had maids and never thought about it ever, my wife takes care of all our children ourselves not leaving them to our parents nor to anyone elses care since my first born some 24+ years ago.
I am happy that all my children have our values not someone elses.. It shudders when I see children mistreating and shouting at their maids and also where maid abuses their charges under their care... maybe this is their tit for tat?
While one should not look down on them, is there anything wrong with asking the maid to wait outside if one has provided adequate food and refreshment for her? It's your choice if you want to have your maid eat abalone and shark's fin at your $8,000 table in a top Chinese restaurant, but why do you have to comment on others who don't want to? Can't we respect their choices?
As mentioned, CEO's do not have their drivers with them at their clubs for lunch, the drivers wait outside and they do not starve. Are all CEO's who do so morally wrong?
And similarly, if you and your CEO go on a business trip, he flies first class, and you fly economy-- exactly as company policy states-- is there anything wrong?
IMO, some people are blurring the line between a maid and a slave.
So have your bosses never treated you to a meal at all? Why be so calculative? You're human, she's human... what if it was you who had to go to another country to work as a maid? What kind of thoughts would you have if you were to be made to stand outside the restaurant while your 'bosses' eat? At the very least, maybe they could have got her into the restaurant too (whether she eats or not is another matter).
I agreed with you. There is a limit to anything one can and supposed to do. If I am going to a posh restaurant, I would not bring my maid along. I would rather give her dayoff or timeoff.
The restaurant that I visited that Saturday was a normal restaurant found at the mall. The food was slightly more expensive than the food court...so would you allow the maid to join you?
This eternal debate resembles a typical deontological vs utilitarian ethical perspective on how you should treat your maid.
At this day and age, what FUNDAMENTAL are you talking about???
Servants?? Next time you take your maid outside, try telling the passerby that this is your servant. You'll be regarded as a Fundamentalist, that's for sure.
When you bring someone into your home, regardless of how much you do or don't pay, to look after your family, that person becomes a part of your family and needed to be treated as such. Can't accept that? Get a part-time maid instead.