I agree with MSZ006Zeta. You gotta go with what makes you comfortable. For me, it was the shutter sound between the Canon and Nikon that pushed me to the Nikon camp though I used Canon film in the past. Lens wise, from your budget, I'd say go for the 18-105VR + 70-300VR or get the 18-200VR straight. I swear by the 70-300VR though and was lucky enuf to get this new @ $600+ Hee hee... ! Excellent stuff this lens !
Get the SB800 at least if you have the budget. I had the SB600 offered to me 2nd hand at a very very very very very good price so I decided to take it since I only needed fill in flash for my macro. SB900 even better, but I'd rather not pay for the newest stuff right now.
Go for what you need right now and just make a little bit of an allowance to have more room for improvements or versatility. I think the D80 would be a great choice right now with the D90 coming out and price coming down and all. I am salivating over a $800 brand new in the box D80. Only problem is, warranty, cos this is a price I saw in Taiwan from 2 months back.....
If you are patient and can control your urges, the price will be good.
Buy, and then resist the BBB urge ya ?
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