Just wish her grandma well in your hearts....
Okay, this is a sensitive area - ICU mah. So everyone has to take a number to get poked by the nurses and yu all better exercise restraint, like Geee-Babieeee even tho he wants to touchy-feelieee the grandma!!!
OK GUYS - UPDATE.
Van says a great BIIIIG THANKS from the bottom of her , but she needs the privacy right now.
Let's just offer our support here on the thread, and if yu have her contact, just send her a quiet note of friendship and reassurance.
There will be NO ORGANISED HOSPITAL VISITS unless the situation changes.
I'm sure someONE will be beri relieved to know that we wun be charging into the hospital 2nite!
The fact is, we dun know the family or grandma.
In absolute truth, we're not visiting the family or grandma lah, and no, why would we want to even enter the room? Not being insensitive, but IF a visit was on, we would only be there physically as a moral form of support for Van.
Last edited by Dream Merchant; 21st August 2008 at 04:51 PM.
The MOST IMPORTANT thing is, Van has someone to offer comfort and support her during this difficult time.
Looking back at some of the posts, I'll share why being there physically is so important is such situations.
Simply, NOTHING beats seeing and hearing a person's voice, in the FLESH, and not thru MMS either.
All through out the animal kingdom, TOUCH is a form of communications and caring, or love.
It also offers a very reassuring and potent means for a person to respond to touch. It has healing properties.
Ever hear of Dolphins or Whales constantly rubbing and carassing a fallen comerade, or even a dying one for days ion end. and after days of constant rubbing and caresses, the injured or dying dolphin or whale comes back to life?
That is the power of PHYSICAL TOUCH and presence.
So, in short, while it FEELS nice to know that people care, NOTHING beats being there, PHYSICALLY, for someone in need.
Last edited by Dream Merchant; 21st August 2008 at 04:52 PM.
i LUB being physical
haha oh solly solly, i a bit gong now... sleepy and have alot of work to do by end of today so i a bit blur.
eh who is that someone you refering to? haha
i go bath my dog..
or mayb bath tgt with him
Besides, dun know if she will be there on Sat all things considered.
Yu could always touch me first, then I will package it up and post it to her!
Butt jokes aside, yu know how powerful a friend's arm on your shoulder when yr feeling real bad, or how a pat on the back can feel right? I dun know why Asians are so bloody averse to touch. Even yr SUUPER macho BS jocks and redneck Caucasians tend to hug, slap each other on the back and put an arm around the shoulders of a depressed friend. We depriv ourselve so much...SIGHZZZ.
Last edited by Dream Merchant; 21st August 2008 at 05:00 PM.
Ok... looks like the problem can't be solved today... sianz
Have to come back tomorrow....
Signing off from Orchard Road...
uh, what's happening...
dozed off for a few,
aiyo DM, i know she might not be there on sat. but yeah you are right, physical presence is far better than "moral support"