View Poll Results: Sabo the groom? OK or not?

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  • Female perspective: It's OK! It's all in the name of fun.

    5 5.26%
  • Female perspective: No, it's not OK.

    3 3.16%
  • Male perspective: It's OK! I'm game for it!

    23 24.21%
  • Male perspective: No, it's not OK.

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Thread: Why ah? S'porean Chinese weddings and the "sabo" culture

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    Default Re: Why ah? S'porean Chinese weddings and the "sabo" culture

    if post 80# is adopted tomo many businesses will close shop...

    but i do agree the "Big Day" is a big marketing hype by restaurants, wedding planners, photographers... so after the big day couples spent a disproportionate amount of savings just to save face = look good.

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    Quote Originally Posted by precious.jas View Post
    That's too traditional thinking... Not my style
    In the eye of law.. Doesnt need friends/families/whoever to 'prove' the marriage... Joy can be shared in many different ways. True blessings will be the true joy.

    Same goes to funeral. People who come and pray to you not nesscessarily bother that you're now gone, they tag along and follow the ritual. Some might be cursing and swearing the dead for wasting their time and doing silly things at the wake... Sad to say, I felt that few times before. I'll never want a wake after I die..

    Ok....I am traditional..... I am also catholic & chinese, so I choose to have a wedding day. Of course, its not the wedding day that matter, it is the marriage that matters more.

    I supposed you could just turn up the two of you at the ROM with family and then get the "cert". I did that way before I had my church wedding. I did have a church wedding, as the "cert" wasn't the most important thing.

    To me, its just closure in a chapter in your life or death. To mark a remembrance of the changes in yours and someone else's life.

    After you die, what does it matter if you have a wake. Its for the living, not for the dead...

    BTW, you are not new. Every couple (especially the bride) I meet want to be exceptional and want to do something different from everyone else and not traditional for their wedding.
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    Default Re: Why ah? S'porean Chinese weddings and the "sabo" culture

    Quote Originally Posted by night86mare View Post
    instead of the usual procession, the bride will stroll in regally, led by the love of her life:

    It's your wedding. No one can say anything.

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    Quote Originally Posted by precious.jas View Post
    You already say it for me - "IMHO, no customary, no ceremony, no dinner, no wedding gown, no photos, even no rings also does matter, but you must have marriage cert, so you are protected by Singapore Laws."
    It's your wedding. No one can say anything.

    Last edited by Sion; 26th May 2008 at 12:58 PM.

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    Quote Originally Posted by catchlights View Post
    ....anyway, I have said my piece, out of here for good.

    good luck.
    Out of here to where?

    Here?

    Have a great nite!

    Last edited by Sion; 26th May 2008 at 12:57 PM.

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    Default Re: Why ah? S'porean Chinese weddings and the "sabo" culture

    Quote Originally Posted by sORe-EyEz View Post
    if post 80# is adopted tomo many businesses will close shop...

    but i do agree the "Big Day" is a big marketing hype by restaurants, wedding planners, photographers... so after the big day couples spent a disproportionate amount of savings just to save face = look good.
    The business of carrying brides will be still around for a long long time.


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    muaahhahahahhaha....i like the way sion do.
    Eat breath LIVERPOOL!!!

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    Default Re: Why ah? S'porean Chinese weddings and the "sabo" culture

    Quote Originally Posted by Sion View Post
    The business of carrying brides will be still around for a long long time.

    but its not popular here, most local brides prefer cars- got nice seats & aircon. even S'pore is small hand carrying brides just takes too long...

    that bride in the pic looks more like an animal for slaughter....
    Last edited by sORe-EyEz; 26th May 2008 at 11:25 PM.

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    Quote Originally Posted by catchlights View Post
    My friend ever said this, "I'm preparing for my marriage, not my wedding", it is truth, marriage last a life time, wedding only last a day.

    how many wedding couples ever spare a thought on this before? no wonder their weddings like playing games, once not happy, game over.
    You assume here that the wedding is about the bride and the groom. From my impression, it is frequently more an opportunity for the families to show off wealth, social status, and refined lifestyle (all of which are sometimes embarrassingly pretended) and "save face". Even if you could personally do without all this humbug, you'd get hell from the parents ...

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    Default Re: Why ah? S'porean Chinese weddings and the "sabo" culture

    Quote Originally Posted by Canew View Post
    Wasn't this 'sabo' culture copied from HK?
    Finally someone got it right......

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sion View Post
    The business of carrying brides will be still around for a long long time.
    the bride was glad..

    until they tipped the sedan into the mouth of the volcano for the yearly sacrifice to the mountain gods

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sion View Post
    It's your wedding. No one can say anything.
    not even the groom, i see, that's why he has his mouth stuffed

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    Default Re: Why ah? S'porean Chinese weddings and the "sabo" culture

    The sisters was always surprised when I told them that is was neither the local or hokkien tradition that the wedding sabo culture started. But since it have been around for awhile now, people kinda accept it as one, or it is that they just wanna torture the Groom?

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    Default Re: Why ah? S'porean Chinese weddings and the "sabo" culture

    Quote Originally Posted by Hommie View Post
    ... that is was neither the local or hokkien tradition that the wedding sabo culture started.
    Ah! Yes, that is what I felt. Monkey see, monkey do. I always say that their was not such activities in the traditional weddings in mainland China long time ago. (maybe now have already la)

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    Chinese marriage became a custom between 402-221 B.C. Despite China's long history and many different geographical areas, there are basically six rituals, generally known as the three letters and six etiquette.

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chinese...rriage_rituals

    Note that the bride sedan goes to the groom house, the groom don't go to the bride house one.
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    Quote Originally Posted by HydroPoP View Post
    Chinese marriage became a custom between 402-221 B.C. Despite China's long history and many different geographical areas, there are basically six rituals, generally known as the three letters and six etiquette.

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chinese...rriage_rituals

    Note that the bride sedan goes to the groom house, the groom don't go to the bride house one.
    local men hen-pecked de?

    da local sisterhood really so 'fierce' arh?!...

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    Quote Originally Posted by sORe-EyEz View Post
    local men hen-pecked de?

    da local sisterhood really so 'fierce' arh?!...
    And there's a thread that wonders why local women look down on local men?

    Just kidding of course

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    Quote Originally Posted by shinken View Post
    And there's a thread that wonders why local women look down on local men?

    Just kidding of course
    no worries, no offence taken. though i think men who speak up when need be is a man worthy of respect.

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    Default Re: Why ah? S'porean Chinese weddings and the "sabo" culture

    Thankfully, my buddies and I have decided that on our wedding days, we'll be bringing bolt-cutters, power sources and angle grinders to utterly destroy the front gates and doors of most houses..

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    Quote Originally Posted by Firefox View Post
    Thankfully, my buddies and I have decided that on our wedding days, we'll be bringing bolt-cutters, power sources and angle grinders to utterly destroy the front gates and doors of most houses..
    Spare a thought for your future parents-in-law, and others who are staying there. It might be more easier to get keys from your prospective mother-in-law, and use those tools on extra locks the jiemeis bring along. You don't need to do anything, if you are earlier than the jiemeis....
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