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    Quote Originally Posted by melvin View Post
    Great! Hope u dun need to count down for too long!
    Hee.. Thanks! He's coming on 16th!! Pray hard for me he get job here!

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    Quote Originally Posted by synapseman View Post
    Talk on phone mostly, once to thrice a week (last time IDD call very expensive). E-mail, ICQ.

    Don't allow your mind to get too imaginative, otherwise you'll get too suspicious of everything your partner does, the people she hangs out with, etc.

    Don't go and question her on everything she does, where you go last night? Who who? For what, etc? Possessiveness is not equals care and concern!

    And both of you will still need to get on with life, have your own circles of friends, take up a hobby, etc. Don't take each other for granted, but don't let the fact that you miss each other get too much in your mind.

    In otherwords, keep your mind healthy and positive. I know say is easy. Our r/s nearly broke down several times, but somehow we managed to see it through lah.
    nicely said

    i survived 1.5 years of long distance relationship.
    the key is communication and trust... i called whenever i could, IDD is quite cheap nowadays with VoIP and stuff.
    few of my friends survived 6 yrs and 9 yrs of long distance relationship..that is extreme though.
    as said..keep your mind healthy and positive.

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    Quote Originally Posted by precious.jas View Post
    Hee.. Thanks! He's coming on 16th!! Pray hard for me he get job here!
    Will pray for u so that can change your LDR to normal mode!

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    Quote Originally Posted by pl4nx View Post
    nicely said

    i survived 1.5 years of long distance relationship.
    the key is communication and trust... i called whenever i could, IDD is quite cheap nowadays with VoIP and stuff.
    few of my friends survived 6 yrs and 9 yrs of long distance relationship..that is extreme though.
    as said..keep your mind healthy and positive.
    Wow ... 6 n 9 yrs! Super!!!

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    Long distance relationships are difficult yes, more difficult that full time live in or nearby relationships. I just find it strange that some people here are ready to write them off as a complete waste of time:

    Quote Originally Posted by BBTM View Post
    Not worth it if u know the other party over internet.

    Worth it if u 2 know each other down here n the other party gone oversea for work/study.
    That's quite a blanket statement, really. There are people who get married having met over the Internet, and I highly suspect it's getting more and more common that it's hardly news very much anymore. So to simply say it isn't worth it if you met online, and worth it if you met before having to travel the long distance in question, is a bit like defining a colour test chart in black and white...

    Quote Originally Posted by Canonised View Post
    It's strange that people already have problems maintaining a relationship, and understanding each others even when they are living nearby .... and yet there are people who believe that they can have a potentially good Long Distance relationship .......
    So you're suggesting that people who believe they can potentially have a good long distance relationship are misguided and wrong? Yet in a later post you suggest that maybe the chance of it working out is maybe 5%. So actually, you do believe it's possible?

    Ultimately, distance makes relationships harder to grow and maintain. You have to work harder at them. Chances are Internet couples are less likely to survive, probably mainly due to the reason that there are many things you can't know about the other person having not met them before. So it's possible that someone you thought was right for you, isn't after all. But it's still entirely possible that someone you thought was right for you, is right for you.

    Ultimately, the person needs to be the right person. After that, factors such as distance will come into the equation.

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    YMMV IMHO. Long distance relationships are difficult, that I have to agree. I've been through it so I know, good thing for me that it eventually turned out well. May factors contribute to how the relationship may end up. Factors include distance, finances, time, security and cultures.

    1) Does he/she stay in a neighbouring country, 4 hrs flight away or halfway round the world?
    2) Does either party have the financial capability as well as time for frequent visits?
    3) Does both party feel secure about not being able date as often as others do?
    4) One will need to be ready to move into a new environment and even pickup a new language, especially when it comes to marriage

    The factors are kind of inter-related in some ways.
    Just my few cents. =)
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    Yay! My boy is arriving SG on 17th! We are almost a day flight away and we make the effort to fly!

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    Quote Originally Posted by precious.jas View Post
    Yay! My boy is arriving SG on 17th! We are almost a day flight away and we make the effort to fly!
    Great! U ending ur LDR soon Congrates!

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