No way I am going to carry it!
There are gentlemanly things to do, like opening the door, holding the chair as she sits down, etc etc. But holding a woman's handbag is not one of them.
Thank god my girlfriend think it's completely stupid as well.
How nice depends on how intimate the emotional level of relationship is.. Most hold back on doing too much for fear of being hurt which is probably why men have egos and ladies have mood swings.. past that and it's a whole new level but Singaporean generally go through the motion (date - steady - marriage - kids) in relationships so YMMV..
Last edited by viix; 6th January 2009 at 04:22 PM.
Most of us take basic courtesy as something special we do for someone.. it's no wonder we are a crude and kiasu society still so self serving and self righteous.
Last edited by viix; 6th January 2009 at 04:34 PM.
for a start society should just dump yesteryear's benchmark on roles both genders are expected. fastforward today, some cling on to them as a leverage for unnecessory tit-for-tat spates.
peel prawns, hold handbag, open doors, do housework, tend the kids, do dishes, cook & so on. if things issues can cause a major rift in any relationship. finish liao, cos there r bigger issues awaiting.
have u seen the "light" yet?
Generally relationships of Singaporean are pretty shallow/through the motion.. quarreling over issues as above.. then big issues how to handle? Procrastinating about it is more work than actually doing that something nice so I really wonder why people bother whining? To make a stand for that inner ego that's only serve 1 purpose, to prove they are the alpha male?? It only serve to undermine the instability of the fundamentally weak relationship.
It's the basic reason why there are so many relationships no longer straight/lasting as they succumb to pressures of society and rebel against it for the wrong reasons..
Last edited by viix; 6th January 2009 at 04:54 PM.
it gives us (excluding your girlfriend maybe) the being pampered, manja feeling.
your thought about it didnt come close to the "nice" feeling that i intended, if you must know.
i dont find carrying wife's/gf's bag as a gentlemanly gesture anyways. heh
constantly learning & trying.
Which is why I always feel, don't talk the talk if you can't walk the walk.. don't be in relationships if you can't live 2 lives and more when you have children.. it's not you happy I happy can liao.. everyone stills wants to be in relationship and still live their own live.. Anyway it's too much OT from the handbag topic so I will end here..
Last edited by viix; 6th January 2009 at 05:00 PM.
if it's a huge heavy bag, of course helping out with the burden is fine.
but i've seen guys carrying their gf's expensive tiny little handbags.
seriously... what are the hangbags for? might as well put your stuff in the guy's bags.
Last edited by viix; 6th January 2009 at 05:20 PM.
Need a mega mac ?
maybe guys should have SAF's Ali-Baba bag. few gals bag cant fit in there for sure!
have u seen the "light" yet?
Think it depends on the situation.. if she needs to go into the fitting room or washroom, yes. For shopping, i think i would rather carry the shopping bags cos it makes more sense. I saw an incident few weeks ago.. the guy was carrying the small handbag for his gf (and nothing else) on a bus while the gf was on the phone talking and admiring her manicure.. i think this guy deserves a double mega mac lah..
As much as i like to respect my gf, i would like her to respct me too.. it should works both ways.
Last edited by Catalyst; 6th January 2009 at 06:47 PM.