I have the D80. Feels good in my hand. Great Control. Great noise reduction performace. All that you will need
Anyway. It also depends on how far you will go for photography...otherwise if you get a DSLR and find that photography isn't yr cup of tea....wasted.
Another issue is when you get the DSLR, you have to harness the power of the various lenses. Otherwise if you are going to only shoot with the kit lens and though that that is it...then DSLR might not be the right one. You might like to consider a Prosumer camera like the Sony H3,7 or 9.
Just my suggestion...hope it helps