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    Quote Originally Posted by zaren View Post
    well, to add on to what someone has mentioned earlier....

    just keep the contact with him as minimal and professional as possible. serious, business-like and no smiling. politely and firmly reject all offers of dinner, dates or presents. do not answer any personal emails, cards, messages, calls etc from him. If he talks mush, excuse yourself and leave immediately. Keep all personal effects locked away, especially anything that has the scent of your perfume.
    good reminder.
    i'll start tomorrow.

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    WOW !!! on to the 14th page now. God bless you, Jeanie. You've got so many well wishers in ClubSNAP ready to offer you advice.

    Why don't you just show him this thread ? It will solve the problem.

    Sometimes I think I am just lucky I am not a good looking, rich, sexy girl who drives a convertible
    At least I don't have to worry about perverted stalkers. I only have to worry about how to make ends meet.
    Now, I couldn't help this one. Sorry.
    The trouble with the world is that the stupid are cocksure and the intelligent are full of doubt....

  3. #263

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    Quote Originally Posted by jeanie View Post
    good reminder.
    i'll start tomorrow.
    that's what i suggested doing...let us know how it goes...

  4. #264

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    Quote Originally Posted by sORe-EyEz View Post
    remind me i was kicked out of my job last time a char bor set her eyez on me...
    what happened?
    头可断,血可流,倩女不可不追求 carpe diem,when in doubt, hoot first,apologise later:p GALLERY

  5. #265

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    Quote Originally Posted by zaren View Post
    well, to add on to what someone has mentioned earlier....

    just keep the contact with him as minimal and professional as possible. serious, business-like and no smiling. politely and firmly reject all offers of dinner, dates or presents. do not answer any personal emails, cards, messages, calls etc from him. If he talks mush, excuse yourself and leave immediately. Keep all personal effects locked away, especially anything that has the scent of your perfume.
    and if the gentle method does not help... then no choice but using the sledge hammer method.... a big NO straight upfront into the face
    some guys get encouraged by the soft method, makes them think of a challenge, in such cases only brutal force and pain get the message through
    Good Luck
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  6. #266

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    Quote Originally Posted by asterixsg View Post
    WOW !!! on to the 14th page now. God bless you, Jeanie. You've got so many well wishers in ClubSNAP ready to offer you advice.

    Why don't you just show him this thread ? It will solve the problem.

    Sometimes I think I am just lucky I am not a good looking, rich, sexy girl who drives a convertible
    At least I don't have to worry about perverted stalkers. I only have to worry about how to make ends meet.
    Now, I couldn't help this one. Sorry.
    i have to say, i have some good friends in cs.


    correction:2 seater not = to convertible.

    hope life's good for you.you havent been keeping in touch with me.

  7. #267

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    Quote Originally Posted by Michael View Post
    and if the gentle method does not help... then no choice but using the sledge hammer method.... a big NO straight upfront into the face
    some guys get encouraged by the soft method, makes them think of a challenge, in such cases only brutal force and pain get the message through
    Good Luck
    worse come to worse, i have you to portray as my bf ya!
    a rich ang mor!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Michael View Post
    and if the gentle method does not help... then no choice but using the sledge hammer method.... a big NO straight upfront into the face
    some guys get encouraged by the soft method, makes them think of a challenge, in such cases only brutal force and pain get the message through
    Good Luck
    the big NO didn't work. and jeanie doesn't want to be too cruel.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jeanie View Post
    worse come to worse, i have you to portray as my bf ya!
    a rich ang mor!
    i thought you said you tried the bf option already and it did not work....
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    Quote Originally Posted by zaren View Post
    the big NO didn't work. and jeanie doesn't want to be too cruel.
    nice is good, but desperate times ask for desperate measures... jeanie drop your nice image...
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    Remember: never look into his eyes when both of you speaks.

    don't even bother to look at him at all. lower down your head.

  12. #272

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    carry some pepper spray in your purse in case down the line it gets ugly and he tries to grab you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by dreaming View Post
    Remember: never look into his eyes when both of you speaks.

    don't even bother to look at him at all. lower down your head.
    yea agree your body language can speak at a volume louder than your voice could.

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    Quote Originally Posted by dreaming View Post
    Remember: never look into his eyes when both of you speaks.

    don't even bother to look at him at all. lower down your head.
    nothing wrong to have minimal eye contact. just be sure to look stern and business-like.

  15. #275

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    Quote Originally Posted by zaren View Post
    nothing wrong to have minimal eye contact. just be sure to look stern and business-like.
    pay attention to your proximty to him when you have to talk to him though.

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    Quote Originally Posted by garou12 View Post
    yea agree your body language can speak at a volume louder than your voice could.
    speaking with head lowered all the time gives the body language of being weak and submissive. better to have a straight, assertive posture that exudes power and control.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jeanie View Post
    i have to say, i have some good friends in cs.


    correction:2 seater not = to convertible.

    hope life's good for you.you havent been keeping in touch with me.
    huh ? don't have convertible meh ? What does the guy see in you ah ?
    If there was a rich, sexy, smart girl in my office, I would make sure that she has at least a convertible before stalking her

    Seriously, jokes apart. You just have to deal this with utmost professionalism. Invite him to your office and tell him that what he is doing to you is affecting your personal life and if he doesn't stop this nonsense, you would be left with no choice but to send in a written complaint to HR.

    And handle this before it gets out of hand.

    I see that you've been having so many problems - booklice, perverts in office, overperfumed colleague - et al, so not bothering you some more lah !!! Otherwise, next thing I know ah, you'll post in Kopitiam - there is this guy Asterix who's giving me grief. And the whole CS community will huntam me.

    Do let us know once you get this pervert off your back.

    Good luck mate.

    Cheers.
    The trouble with the world is that the stupid are cocksure and the intelligent are full of doubt....

  18. #278

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    Quote Originally Posted by garou12 View Post
    pay attention to your proximty to him when you have to talk to him though.
    an arm's length should be fine.

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    Quote Originally Posted by zaren View Post
    speaking with head lowered all the time gives the body language of being weak and submissive. better to have a straight, assertive posture that exudes power and control.
    thing is i didn't say to speak with her head lowered. but avoidance of eye contact would be better for her situation.

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    Quote Originally Posted by zaren View Post
    an arm's length should be fine.
    yea just don't go into his space bubble or let him come into yours.

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