please lah guys, even though it's kopitiam talk, i dont appreciate posts that brings a tinge of sarcasm, or nothing to contribute but smile-leeeeees.
As you have already mentioned upteen times, he's very, very, very persistent, and all the methods which we have brought up here don't really work IYO. If that's the case, good luck and hope you can come up with a good method to shake him away.
Guys, don't be so persistent lah...
Actually I found such behaviour a little on the extreme side, kinda close to being pervertic. Waiting every morning in the car park just to take the lift together? Isn't that stalking? Better rid this problem earlier before it gets outta hand. Like most have mentioned, reporting to the HR department makes absolute sense, especially if its affecting you at work. Good luck!
here's ally for you
pic from www.art.com
Last edited by jeanie; 30th July 2007 at 10:52 PM.
WOW! 13 pages already! Have to be honest and admit that I fast-forwarded from Pg 1 to here...
I'm sure just about every conceivable option has been suggested by now, so I'll venture to say that basically, if he is a typical or normal guy, i.e., he doesn't have any psychological imbalances that makes him want to be dominated or mothered, one of the things almost no self-respecting human can ever endure is humiliation, especially in front of those he or she deems as 'important' or significant in their lives.
Devious mode turn off. Been watching too many movies liao
Tactics u have to create to suit the particular situation to elicit the subtlest, but deepest cuts - master the slow bleed. Afterall, you just want him off your back, and not wanting to murder you as a result.
All the best, whatever route you choose. Sometimes, simply and totally ignoring that person continually works as eloquently as the most intricately crafted plan. There's nothing louder than absolute silence.
Oh, did someone say 'HR'?
Last edited by Dream Merchant; 30th July 2007 at 11:02 PM.
The behaviour described reminds of the Robin Williams character in "One Hour Photo" - hmmm, wonder if he has a whole wall at home filled with pictures of you...
OK, if this is seriously happening... a slight possibility is that he is, as they say, a few cans short of a sixpack, so you don't want him to go all 'psycho' on you (doubt so, but you never know with people these days...) so best to get help, from HR for example. To reduce the changes of any negative reaction to you bringing his behaviour up at the workplace is to get HR involved and maybe they can get him some counselling.
go for new hairdo? cut or change color? wear nerdy specs?
if he's abit loose "up there", mayb turn to ash he oso kno its u...
Last edited by sORe-EyEz; 30th July 2007 at 11:01 PM.
dream and goose,
got it.appreciate the comments and advice.
don't be po po ma ma.
try this. report to police for harassing you.
everything will be back to normal.
remind me i was kicked out of my job last time a char bor set her eyez on me...
No nid police lah, keep it 'internal', if you know what I mean.
Just get all the CS guys here to follow you to work one day, and confront the guy in the carpark.
Oh, I added something after you read my post:
About totally ignoring the guy - consider: There's nothing louder than absolute silence.
Oh, did someone say 'HR'?
well, to add on to what someone has mentioned earlier....
just keep the contact with him as minimal and professional as possible. serious, business-like and no smiling. Keep all conversations short and strictly work-related. Show no emotion to him at all. Politely and firmly reject all offers of dinner, dates or presents. do not answer any personal emails, cards, messages, calls etc from him. If he talks mush, excuse yourself and leave immediately. Keep all personal effects locked away, especially anything that has the scent of your perfume.
Last edited by zaren; 30th July 2007 at 11:11 PM.