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    Quote Originally Posted by leejay View Post
    BTW, why the sudden release of your portfolio?
    wow, are we allowed to critique the pictures? oops OT

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    Quote Originally Posted by eikin View Post
    maybe you want to be specific about what is draconian about society's thinking here? not everything that ''works'' in the US context is applicable to other places.

    never seen a broken marriage fixed doesn't mean they don't exist. i can tell you they do happen.
    My asertion is that, when someone wants out of a personal situaltion, and why is the government and the society stanidng in their way?

    How I feel about failed marriages will never be fixed is a personal believe and observation. Of course, nothing is 100%. But my believe is pretty high up there percentage wise.

    This has nothing to do with being in the US, Europe or Asia. For one thing, it's freedom of choice and association. Actually, the divoice rate in the US, as a whole, had stablilzed
    and actually been declining a bit also. However, we need to take into acocount marriage rates have declined significantly, meaning lesser divorce required?

    I have been saying all the time, the key to a marriage staying together, is economics. This is one factor that kept lots of bad marriages together. The other reason is children.

    When women achieved econimic independence, they no longer have to be forced to stay in a bad marriage. One less hurdle to getting out.
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    Quote Originally Posted by leejay View Post
    I merely said it is an interesting article. I never said anything about divorce. BTW, why the sudden release of your portfolio?
    Don't OT lah, you may be slap with an infraction. Opps, I am OTing also.

    Nothing personal re your original comments. Just don't find the article interesting at all, because it was reciting numbers with no insights nor opinions.
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    like law of gravity... wat goes up, must come down...

    more ppl marry = more ppl divorce... think about it... there is still alot of people not married... how come got so many marry? must be those remarry lor, from where? divorce...

    you give human a choice, they normally abuse it, you give them no choice, they lppl do it for the rest of their life...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Deadpoet View Post
    My asertion is that, when someone wants out of a personal situaltion, and why is the government and the society stanidng in their way?

    How I feel about failed marriages will never be fixed is a personal believe and observation. Of course, nothing is 100%. But my believe is pretty high up there percentage wise.

    This has nothing to do with being in the US, Europe or Asia. For one thing, it's freedom of choice and association. Actually, the divoice rate in the US, as a whole, had stablilzed
    and actually been declining a bit also. However, we need to take into acocount marriage rates have declined significantly, meaning lesser divorce required?

    I have been saying all the time, the key to a marriage staying together, is economics. This is one factor that kept lots of bad marriages together. The other reason is children.

    When women achieved econimic independence, they no longer have to be forced to stay in a bad marriage. One less hurdle to getting out.
    well that's your view.

    divorce ought to be the last resort, and i don't disagree with the so called ''hurdles''
    if the couple (let's not be discriminating and only talk about women) thinks that divorce is so troublesome for solving their disagreement, it just means that they are not determined enough to break. if they have so much determination, no amount of hurdles are going to stand in the way.

    btw since you are so concerned about women being in the disadvantaged situation, you might want to try writing to AWARE http://www.aware.org.sg/ i think they have been very proactive in fighting for woman's rights and welfare, i'm sure they'll welcome your views

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    Quote Originally Posted by eikin View Post
    well that's your view.

    divorce ought to be the last resort, and i don't disagree with the so called ''hurdles''
    if the couple (let's not be discriminating and only talk about women) thinks that divorce is so troublesome for solving their disagreement, it just means that they are not determined enough to break. if they have so much determination, no amount of hurdles are going to stand in the way.

    btw since you are so concerned about women being in the disadvantaged situation, you might want to try writing to AWARE http://www.aware.org.sg/ i think they have been very proactive in fighting for woman's rights and welfare, i'm sure they'll welcome your views
    Divorce should be a last resort, just like an abortion, but do we or should we force a woman to bare a child she does not want? I am openning another can of worms, but that is just to illustrate a point.

    We should not interfer with people's personal choices.

    And thanks for the link.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Deadpoet View Post
    Divorce should be a last resort, just like an abortion, but do we or should we force a woman to bare a child she does not want? I am openning another can of worms, but that is just to illustrate a point.

    We should not interfer with people's personal choices.

    And thanks for the link.
    well, abortion isn't illegal in Singapore, who's forcing a woman to bear a child she does not want?

    you're welcomed, i just find that you have so many disagreements with the workings of Singapore's society that i thought i should help you abit by showing you some of the more effective channels

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    Quote Originally Posted by eikin View Post
    well, abortion isn't illegal in Singapore, who's forcing a woman to bear a child she does not want?

    you're welcomed, i just find that you have so many disagreements with the workings of Singapore's society that i thought i should help you abit by showing you some of the more effective channels
    if we are not forcing a woman to carry a child she does not want, why are we erecting hurdles for a couple to get a divorce?

    By the way, it is healthy to disagree. It foster thoughts and ideas, and changes for the better. Actually, singing to the choir is absolutely useless.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Deadpoet View Post
    if we are not forcing a woman to carry a child she does not want, why are we erecting hurdles for a couple to get a divorce?

    By the way, it is healthy to disagree. It foster thoughts and ideas, and changes for the better. Actually, singing to the choir is absolutely useless.
    what's the link between abortion and divorce? is this a tactic to digress?

    well like i mentioned, if the couple wants a divorce that badly, no one's stopping them, those hurdles will not mean anything to them. if the woman thinks she's disadvantaged unreasonably by law, i'm sure AWARE will fight for her. can't say the same for the man though.

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    Quote Originally Posted by eikin View Post
    well there are realities to deal with, but beyond that there are many other things. end of the day everyone needs to stay alive, need to eat, sleep, excrete, earn a living, but life isn't just that if not we'll all be robots. no need to be so pessimistic
    i prefer to think that i'm being realistic...which just happens to paint a dark picture but i do agree with what you said though.

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    Quote Originally Posted by garou12 View Post
    Marriage is and always has been an economic transaction first and foremost...
    Much as I hate to say this, the creation of a family unit truly is based on economic considerations. Resources are pooled, tasks can be divided, husband and wife can specialise and play to strengths, and children do better overall. In ancient times, when basic survival was not a given, marriage was truly an economic concern. In many cultures, it is an accepted norm, and from such a perspective, sometimes, love in a marriage is deemed a luxury. This I disagree with somewhat.

    Very often, two strangers in an arranged marriage will grow to love one another. In fact, if you a reader of the Bible, God commands it; "Wives submit to your husbands.....husbands, love your wives." (Book of Ephesians). I.e. you don't have a choice, you are commanded to love your wife. Is love an act of will? Absolutely! Ask any parent of naughty kids and see how much willpower you sometimes need to summon to love them!

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    more ppl marry = more ppl divorce... more people re-marry.

    results = repeat clients for wedding photography.

    Good for business, in a way...

    Twice in a lifetime... he he he..
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    One has to also look at the causes for divorces... and in society today, infidelity is cited as one of the major reasons for unhappy marriages which eventually lead to divorce. Given the work culture where we spend more time in the office with co-workers than with our spouses and family, its not surprising that workplace affairs are so common.

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    infidelity has been around forever, its only recently with women's lib that women have been able to do something about it and not stay trapped in a marriage where the husband is constantly cheating.

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    Quote Originally Posted by garou12 View Post
    infidelity has been around forever, its only recently with women's lib that women have been able to do something about it and not stay trapped in a marriage where the husband is constantly cheating.
    The reverse is increasingly true... quite a number of marriages I personally know of have been caused by the wife going astray in the marriage

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    Quote Originally Posted by Gymrat76 View Post
    The reverse is increasingly true... quite a number of marriages I personally know of have been caused by the wife going astray in the marriage
    that's true too. just get proof and take her to the bank lor.

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    abit ot but i'm surprised no one has made a thread about bullying

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    Quote Originally Posted by garou12 View Post
    abit ot but i'm surprised no one has made a thread about bullying
    erm ... you think there's not enough news articles running around kopitiam to keep everyone entertained? ... ... ...

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    Quote Originally Posted by eikin View Post
    erm ... you think there's not enough news articles running around kopitiam to keep everyone entertained? ... ... ...
    well with all the threads started i'm just surprised that no one mentioned this at all here

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    Quote Originally Posted by razor View Post
    more ppl marry = more ppl divorce... more people re-marry.

    results = repeat clients for wedding photography.

    Good for business, in a way...

    Twice in a lifetime... he he he..
    Or....more people realize marriage not so important.

    no need to take good pictures....then

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