Spouse and Children only
Spouse and Children and Parents
Spouse and Children and Parents and Grandparents
I would consider those close family members one generation up and down. That means if I'm single, I would consider parents and siblings as immediate family. When I'm married, it'll be spouse, children and parents. If I'm not wrong, in an insurance claim, if there is no beneficiary stated, as a single the 1st claim goes to parents. And when married, it'll 1st go to spouse, followed by children, then to parents.
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people brought up in orphanage dont have immediate family members other than their care taker
On another note, who is your ICE contact? Mine are my mei and jie.
The youngest child lives with the dad and he/she knows the father best. It is also the youngest child who has the capacity to take care of the father financially and physically.
In this case whose decision should carry more weight? Still the mother?
Giving it some thoughts, I think SS's question is incomplete.
OK, now I have defined what my immediate family is, so what next?
It is very important to know under what context as I had said in an earlier post.
Awaits SS's clarification. The on with the debate, discussion ...
As they our parents, taking care of them are always what we do out of love from the first day we are ccapable of taking care of them until they return home to the Lord.
Not pinpointing anyone, definition of who's who and the actual taking care and loving the parents are different thing. A person can define her parents as immediate family but she doesn't take care of them and show no love for them but treat them as "immediate ATM".
Take caring of parents are children responsibility even after all of them are married, left the home and have their own families.
I think it is very sad that we categorise our parents if they are or not immediate family. Does the term really matter? Do we really need to be so picky and categorise the relationship?
We all love our parents
I agree that we first have to set a stage to have a meaningful discussion on this topic.
Letís look at it from the cultural and social view points.
And I put it as follow: We are directly responsible for the well beings and interests of our immediately family member.
I am surprise that you took a step further to prioritize them. Is it never an easy task.
From you previous writings, I find you a man living with a well defined set of rules, there is very minimal grey area. For example; If a love one is dying, you will not hesitate to tell him/her the truth regardless of any situations you may have at that time.
I really hope that family life can be easier when we set priority to them.
I personally feel that the person you love most or most importance to you may not always be the first priority when given different circumstances.
The reason for this poll is to find out who are the people we feel we are responsible for. These responsibilities will eventually shape our social values and contemporary cultural. I hope this can answer Paulís question.
Let me ask this question to you and the rest:
There is a famine and you have a bow of salad. This bow of salad can only feed two persons. You have Parents, a wife, a boy and a girl. Who will you feed to keep them alive?
In this situation, my wife and I are the healthhies persons, so, we still can survive. So, we give food to our parents as they have the weakest bodies. Then, the boy and Hammy and I will go and look for more food while my wife take care of parents and little girl.
according to SS, only food available for 2 ... no more no less ... for 2, whom to give to
if they do not survive the famine, does anything matters, without food they will not survive
... This is of course not a realistic senario, but it is the senario given, within which we think, decide and act ...
Last edited by Silence Sky; 26th April 2007 at 05:11 PM.