The story reads like one from a soap tv serial. Shows a dark, heartless, souless creature of a doctor whose mother slogged day and night to get him thru' medical school. Once he has obtained his medical degree and got married, turns on his mother, ill treats her, and got her out of the house. She was a cleaner and they had wanted her to stop her job.
I have these questions:
1. How sure are we that the reason that they want her to stop work is so that she will not embarrass them? They may have genuinely wanted her to stop work because of her interest at heart - to enjoy life for the remaining part of her life. However, mum may have other plans. She can't stand staying at home and would rather go to work.
2. How sure are we that the things this mother is saying is the correct interpretation of things that are happening. I have seen some mother-in-laws who treat their daughter-in-law very, very badly despite everything this poor d-i-l is trying to please her. She buys her a present and m-i-l says it is so expensive, why waste money and if she does not buy anything, she says that her d-i-l has forgotten. Sigh, sure to lose type. How?
Before, I go on, maybe I should just declare myself - Yes, I am a doctor. My mum has passed on but my m-i-l used to work as a cleaner/chamber-maid. I am most proud of her. Being a employee in the hotel, she was able to get a special deal at the restaurant. So, on her birthday, we all booked a table at the restaurant for dinner. She introduced us to the people she knew there and they were so happy to see us and we were so proud she is our mother!
Whatever has happened, I can see lots of compassionate ppl in CS and that is good. Fighting for the correct cause. What I hope to see is us examining ourselves to see if we have recently in any way be less caring or rude to our parents, which I am the first to confess that I have committed this crime from time to time. So...
Let the person who thinks that he/she has no sin be the first to cast the stone!
I think the son is useless. He throws his mom out of the house because his wife dislike her. No backbone, useless, not a man. I think he is a wimp.
Otherwise, we would be as guilty as the perpetrator if we kept mum.(no pun intended)
Last edited by Tetrode; 19th February 2007 at 10:54 PM.
What would the new born son of the doc do; when he has grown up & discover just what his father had done?! I Remember a fable story while i was a child....abt a parents wanting to pack their "old woman" in a large basket & forsake her in the wilderness mountain... the grandchild look on & said to his parents :"remember to bring back the basket." The father was puzzled..."why?" He asked... "So that I can carry u there when u are old."
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Hope both doc & his wife read this story b4...
karma. nuff said.
Maybe it my own naive principle that I also teach to my children, so this is purely my own opinion and you may not agree with it at all and it is alright with me:
Judge not as you will be judged!
I do not judge but I evaluate and decide what to do based the principles that I know.
Last edited by eng_keow; 19th February 2007 at 11:20 PM.
The stereotype in me would picture the doc's wife as someone pretty and seductive perhaps. He listens to her cos he likes her body and she likes his doc status and $ he earns. The couple are successful in their careers. They (Or more like his wife) don't like some of his mother's habits at home (not just her working as a cleaner).
Doctor so what. He is also a human culpable of acts deemed inhumane by society. Sad to read such cases though.
Is this the sign of highly educated people in Singapore now.
What is there to be afraid of losing face when his mother is a cleaner, she may just want to pass her time by doing a job.
The doctor wife, a senior human resource manager, I disregard her as a human being.
I wonder how she manage the staff in her company, maybe any staff once they reach their retirement age, they will be told by her to leave immediately.
These people are just too concern about their status.
Wicked, wicked, wicked son and daughter-in-law.
for some reason i'm now just extremely angry after reading the report.
if i ever find out who he and his wife are... if i ever... ARGH!
so *****ing pissed off at them right now!
there isnt a moral benchmark.
When my gran died last year, my cousin and her husband both doctors didnt even see her, just stood outside and chit chat, smiling and laughing even at her funeral. and my sis and her doc friends, ridiculed dying patients as prawns because when they die, some curl up into a foetal position.
To quote Gil Grissom from CSI(fictional), only first half is relevant
a moral compass can only point u in the right direction, cant make u go there.
our culture preaches that you shldnt be ashamed of anything u do anymore.
and unfortunately, this city is built on the principle that there's no such thing as guilt.
The son and daughter-in-law will get their retribution, either in this life or next ones.