Just be sincere and let it be a personal thing between the two of you.
Dont make it into a "I want to make the proposal be a headline news thing" like flash it on the DHL balloon or have a 40 feet banner coming down UOB building thing unless you are dead sure your girl wants to marry you. Most of those guys who did something like this got rejected. The girl was not ready and to worsen it, having the proposal become a public talking point made it worse. End up break up....
My friend did something like that had us all help out in the proposal, so he had muscians, had roses dropping down from the second floor of the restaurant where he was dining her. And all of us there singing and clapping and also involved in the entire planning and execution. Result got married but divorced less than 2 years later. Seems that the girl was pressured to say yes as everyone was there. She didnt want to embrass him and herself by saying no and creating an akward situation. However in the long run, she realised he was not the one she wanted to marry. Sad......
Hence I would say keep it private, at least you and her can back down gracefully in case she rejects you. And still can carry on being a couple and maybe one day she will marry you. If you make the proposal public.... most likely if reject you, she would be too embrassed to want to be seen near you.
here's my personal account...
*the tua-kang, Big-Fish version*
to propose to my then-girlfriend, i travelled hundreds of miles from home, journeyed through rocky hill trails, rode on horseback up a narrow and dangerous mountain path, and finally proposed to her in between Heaven and Hell.
*the closer-to-reality version*
went on an overseas holiday with her, a trip to a scenic mountain spot. the horse was chaperoned by a handler (but hey, it was still dangerous ok! if it decided to bolt, i'm a goner ) finally reached the top of a volcano, which the locals call 'in between heaven and hell'. on one side, the crater (hell), the other beautiful green valley (heaven).
guess which version i will be telling the kids haha!
we were at bromo mountain, indonesia
Do not do it in a public place in front of many people unless you are dead sure she'll accept.
I've seen it done on two separate occassions, one time at a restaurant and one time at a pub. Both times, didn't end up well. The one at the restaurant kena rejected and walked out (poor guy lefted the restaurant alone with his head down) and the other at the pub agreed but everyone could see from her face that she was shocked and wasn't pleased to be put in such a position but she only agreed not to embarrass the guy, probably rejected him later...
Personally, I feel that a proposal should be more private and done in romantic setting with no distraction so she can listen carefully and think about what you have to say. Get on one knee ( a cliche but definitely a must) hold her hands and look into her eyes sincerely and let her know of your plans for the future and how you want her to be a part of it. Tell her how she inspires you and how she makes you want to be a better and more responsible person....
Most of all how tell her how much you love her.
Hope this helps
Good luck and congrats
I will try to translate it into English. Please pardon my English.
These are actually "quotes" used for proposals (more of a joke) but I thought some could be a killer. hahaha
1. "Let us love till the end!"
As you can see the rating is only 1 star, so it's pretty crappy.
2. "Let us give our love 10,000 years of lifespan."
必杀指数：★★ - I think this is pretty crappy as well.
3. "Let us bury our love!" (gf will be shocked and probably ask "what? did i hear wrongly?"
Reply: "Since marriage is the tomb of love, let us step into the hall of marriage!"
4. "My dear, marry me! You will be the 2nd most blissful person in the world." (gf will ask then who is the most blissful person?")
Reply: "Of course it's me!" (+ looking like in the midst of blissfulness, gf will definitely be damn happy)
5.“告诉你一个在我心底埋藏多年的秘密，你长得很像我的第一个老婆。”(女友必然醋海生波，花容失色：“ 什么，你已经结过婚了？可你一直对我说你没有结过婚呀，你这个大骗子！”)“我是没有结过婚呀。”(女友恍 然大悟。)
5. "Let me tell you a secret that I have been keeping for years. You looked like my first wife." (gf will definitely feel jealous and ask "you are married?!? you have never told me about that. you liar!"
Reply: "I didn't say I was married." (at this point gf will probably realised that you are talking about her)
This one is a bonus. Equipment required: A mirror (or probably a photo of gf).
选择一个良辰吉日，郑重其事地向女友宣布：“我已经有一个恋人了，我想向她求婚，不知道她意下如何。喏，这 是她的照片。”女友黯然神伤间，接过来一看，顿时红云飞起———“玉照”中的人儿是她，原来那 是一面镜子。
Choose an auspicious date and tell your gf: "Actually, I have a lover already. I wanted to propose to her but I am not sure how she will react. This is her photo." (show photo/mirror to gf, she will realised that she is the lover.)
Last edited by akane; 6th January 2007 at 01:52 PM.
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