Yes, it is "Guo Huo".
To love and being loved is often the outcome in our relationship.
It is impossible to strike a balance, my friend. If you already attached/married, think very hard about the vows you took, the fond memories you had, hardships you shared together too.....hope it is strong enough to keep your heart at bay. Sometimes, love to me is about giving more than taking.
End of the day, to each his/her own.
I hope it works out well at your nick of the wood
Love is not just a feeling. Love is a decision.
If everyone loves by feelings alone, the whole world will be in chaos, don't you agree?
I admit I do not know what love is.
At the beginning I thought I knew what love is, but as day goes by it become so illusive that I started to doubt about it.
Love to me is just like a gust of wind. You do not know when it will come and when it will go, but it is constantly here.
I can’t explain it, I can’t see it, I can’t touch it, but I can feel it when it comes.
All I know is when I feel the love, it will lift me off the ground and life becomes so wonderful.
To extract points which are relevant to me:
First set the limit or boundary that I can’t cross. Then indulge myself in the magical feeling while staying within the limits.
Don’t be too honest with yourself or others as the truth always hurts.
How many times did your naughty eyes traced along your sexy colleague’s panty line?
How many times those sultry AV stars did join you in your fantasy land?
Are you going to confide your partner about these things?
In the game of love,
Should it be Head over Heart or,
Heart over Head?
Either way, I am going to suffer.
People always say “Varieties and choices spice up your life”.
Does this statement also apply to our love life?
A GF, A wife and A mistress, give you a totally different experience.
What you can find in your mistress, you will never find it in your wife.
The only grave mistake I did not make …. And very proud of…..Is…..
I AM STILL SINGLE.
Merry Christmas to everyone. May your life be filled with loves.
Last edited by Silence Sky; 22nd December 2006 at 04:52 PM.
When you are in love it feels like when you are near that person, your heart skip a beat with every few heartbeat. That is how best I can explain it.
theres still a solution!!!!!!!!!! convert your religion to a MUSLIM , hahahahahahaha!
Do you believe that I hold my wife's hand when she walks with me even till today? she was my high school sweetheart. Those you have met be before may think how can that be right, I don't look that old but I started young, she was my high school sweetheart.
I can't imagine my life without her, I'm lucky I found my soulmate.
I think the inital feeling of being in love is abit of infatuation, lust, and basically being totally lost in rapture. This feeling is very fleeting - it cannot last for long. Unfortunately, a lot of us like to have that feeling.
Being married is a huge commitment. Now, commitment, unfortunately, requires a lot of work and effort. It also requires a decision to be made to stick to the marriage, however and whatever difficulties you face along the way.
Romance will die off after a few months/maybe years in a marriage. But commitment is what keeps it going - commitment to continuously try to rekindle the passion, to go back to the courtship days, to communicate etc.
I don't know about you guys, but I do like the familiarity and also the security that comes with marriage. With a new relationship, everything seems to be so alien - you'd have to start "exploring" that person (the likes and dislikes, the history, the personality etc). It is just so tiring after a while to keep doing that over and over again with each new person you try to start a relationship with. However, with a steady partner/spouse, you know that at the end of the day, you have a person whom you can always rely on, pour your sorrows, share your laughter etc. It's like an old blanket/bolster/pillow that you hug to sleep at night - it's the familiarity that makes you want to stick to it.
Anyway four wives not easy. If anyone were to follow the rules as stated in the Koran, "You can marry one, two, three or four. However, if u cannot treat them equally, marry only one." Did not check the Qur'an for the actual translation but close enough.
Basically, u must treat all fairly. If u give one of the wife something, the other one must also receive and that includes sex. If one is excluded, wife can bring u to court and sue the husband. So not that easy as it seems. But I one wife already nagging at me liao. Still want another one to top up, no thank you.
But to the TS, since u are single, no harm going to the other one but be prepared to regret your decision cause u may lose more than u think as stated in one of the post. Think twice basically.
If u are married without children, sometimes may be better for both parties to part if THERE IS REALLY A PROBLEM THAT CANNOT BE RESOLVED. If married with children, MUST TRIPLE CONSIDER CAUSE IMPACT NOT ON U BUT ON CHILDREN.
For your current situation, ask yourself this qn,
Are your current partner and u avoiding conflict by not talking abt certain things or u will avoid unpleasant topics? If it is, you may actually have a breakdown in comms. Comms is one of the main reason for marriage failure besides money and sex.
Last edited by CreaXion; 22nd December 2006 at 05:52 PM.
last year i bought a d70 and now im inlove with d80.
In real world, man are lusty and many of my friends are the chiong type. Which is the better of the two "evils"? To have sex with responsibility or without responsibility.
Another viewpt. In certain parts of the world, there is less men than women. This could be due to certain circumstances like war, etc, etc. Woman also has their needs which only man can fulfill. So how.
There are many other complicated factors besides these that will support polygamy. People will also swear agst it. Two main viewpts and in my opinion, situational. Each has pros and cons.
But basically, it is just a provision and need not be practised. What must be practised are the rules for husbands and wives?
And when u dun love a person anymore, there are many factors and it depends as what many pp say, whether u want to work on it.
Last edited by CreaXion; 22nd December 2006 at 06:25 PM.
Love is a many-splendored thing,
It's the April rose that only grows in the early spring,
Love is nature's way of giving a reason to be living,
The golden crown that makes a man a king.
always the Light, .... always.