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    Quote Originally Posted by eikin View Post
    tell him you're invited by your girlfriend to attend her brother's wedding, not going there to work for someone else.
    True but how am i to tell my gf? Its her bro afterall.

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    Quote Originally Posted by zaxh81 View Post
    Put on a 300mm prime on your DSLR and tell him your camera not suits to take wedding.
    Ask him to take a look himself so that he know exactly what you mean.
    Or this one works too!!

    That is ................ Until he picks up photography and realised you are snooking him!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by maxmax View Post
    Your gf bro take you for granted leh.
    Go for a tour during his wedding day, then u got excuse not to shoot.
    Quote Originally Posted by stonefish35 View Post
    i'm not a pro. Here's my take.

    If i'm you, I will tell him that my equipment is schedule for some maintainance during the period, not sure if able to get back in time from the service centre. After a few days, will tell him that certain parts are out of stock hence, unable to take the shoot.

    Reason being, if accept to shoot for him, given your description of him, he might lay the blame on you if he doesn't like the photos taken. Just let him spend the money and hire a cheap photographer, and free yourself from the potential trouble that you may be caught in.
    Yah, i'm thinking of an excuse not to shoot for him. I am not even interested in attending his dinner.

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    Quote Originally Posted by palvin View Post
    True but how am i to tell my gf? Its her bro afterall.
    if i am you i'll say i'm not good enough to do it, and therefore will not do it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by hongsien View Post
    If you want to do it since he is your GF brother, do it because you want to do it with your whole heart, and not half heartedly........you can still give an ang pow, no matter whether you take the pics or not, maybe this way you can change him. But thats not your problem.....your problem is only whether you want to do it or not.

    Whether he appreciates it or not, that is not your problem.......you have done your part, and you should feel happy about it.

    Hong Sien
    He's someone who is too calculative. Even his own sister, he will calculate every single cents. Hence, i don't think i have the heart to take pics for him.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Caspere View Post
    Or this one works too!!

    That is ................ Until he picks up photography and realised you are snooking him!!
    imagine he ask him to buy the lumix with the 28mm lens...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Chris Lim View Post
    why dun you tell him you give him a rm$500 "ang pow" by hiring the photographer for him and you go and enjoy the dinner?
    Oh, think its quite offending leh.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Caspere View Post
    The worst is to do it for him and (gasped) the photos come out bad! How to answer to him, his wife, your girlfriend, and worst, your future parents-in-law!! Murphy works 24hrs, so be warned!!
    Yah. That may happen too. Perhaps he will unreasonably say that i did not do it well for him cost he did not pay me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DXNMedia View Post
    Tell him that you got another real paying wedding event to shoot for on that same day!
    Hmm... i must also lie to my gf meh?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Caspere View Post
    Or this one works too!!

    That is ................ Until he picks up photography and realised you are snooking him!!

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    I think it is a situation all of us photography enthusiasts can relate to. You own a large camera, people look upon you as a means of recording a wedding day on film (or memory cards).

    I normally turn down requests to shoot ROM or weddings because it simply isn't my cup of tea. The exceptions I make are when I want to do it to help the couple, or if I owe them a debt of gratitude. The usual precautions are issued - that though I may dabble in photography, wedding photography and portraits isn't one of them.

    You can't expect a renowned prize-winning French chef to whip up a 10 course Chinese dinner without lots of practice and instruction.

    And so, I've only done 3 so far - 1 AD, and 2 ROMs, I didn't enjoy doing them, but I can't say I didn't feel some pride when the bride of one of the ROMs I shot requested that I do her AD as well. I was there on her husband's behest, while she had hired another photographer. But I've already decided I didn't want to do this anymore, and forwarded the offer to one of my friends who does do wedding photography.
    Last edited by r32; 11th December 2006 at 01:00 AM.

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    Default Re: Gf's bro wanted my free service.

    gf only.. not wife yet.
    if u give him free service now, you'll probably end up giving him free services all your life.

    best way out now is to be 'busy' that day.
    sigh.

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    Quote Originally Posted by eikin View Post
    if i am you i'll say i'm not good enough to do it, and therefore will not do it.
    He knows that i got take wedding pics before mah.

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    If he really respects you as his sister's future husband he'll better pay you for your service.

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    Default Re: Gf's bro wanted my free service.

    like some had suggested, just tell him that u are not good enough to take up the responsiblity. imagine, since he is so calculative, what will he says if he doesnt like any of your shots.

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    Default Re: Gf's bro wanted my free service.

    Quote Originally Posted by Clown View Post
    gf only.. not wife yet.
    if u give him free service now, you'll probably end up giving him free services all your life.

    best way out now is to be 'busy' that day.
    How about being on "reservist training" for the weekend? Be creative, but credible.


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    Quote Originally Posted by palvin View Post
    He knows that i got take wedding pics before mah.
    then be as calculative as him. make him cover all possible damages that arises on that day make sure it's in black and white. don't go through your girlfriend, speak to him in person

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    Quote Originally Posted by r32 View Post
    I think it is a situation all of us photography enthusiasts can relate to. You own a large camera, people look upon you as a means of recording a wedding day on film (or memory cards).

    I normally turn down requests to shoot ROM or weddings because it simply isn't my cup of tea. The exceptions I make are when I want to do it to help the couple, or if I owe them a debt of gratitude. The usual precautions are issued - that though I may dabble in photography, wedding photography and portraits isn't one of them.

    You can't expect a renowned prize-winning French chef to whip up a 10 course Chinese dinner without lots of practice and instruction.

    And so, I've only done 3 so far - 1 AD, and 2 ROMs, I didn't enjoy doing them, but I can't say I didn't feel some pride when the bride of one of the ROMs I shot requested that I do her AD as well. I was there on her husband's behest, while she had hired another photographer. But I've already decided I didn't want to do this anymore, and forwarded the offer to one of my friends who does do wedding photography.
    Well said! So, we cannot be forced to do the things we don't like.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Clown View Post
    gf only.. not wife yet.
    if u give him free service now, you'll probably end up giving him free services all your life.

    best way out now is to be 'busy' that day.
    I agree! Then he'll intro me to his friend and says to his friends that i can do for free! Or i can do for free since i am his potential bro-in-law. I've experienced this many times already. Guess i just have to be firm on my decision.

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    then just say u really dun think u are up to it. If he's persistent then just be persistent in declining loh. give wat ever reason u can to him.

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