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    Quote Originally Posted by ortega View Post
    it depends on what you are looking for in a spouse

    what is true love?
    One of the definitions of real/true love... you maybe interested in reading the following document.

    http://www.rbc.org/uploadedFiles/Bib..._real_love.pdf

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    Quote Originally Posted by jsbn View Post
    Try Malaysia.
    Or Mongolia?

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    Is it due to local guys really feel inferior that ladies have higher qualification...
    actually would be interesting to know also what ladies feel if their guy is earning less than them

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    Quote Originally Posted by microcosm View Post
    1) Do our local guys have high expectation?
    Yes

    2) Or is it the ladies have high expectation?
    Yes
    Dude, one is talking about a mate here, not a camera which can be sold in the second hand market. LOL.


    How high is high? can be lower?

    3) Is it due to local guys really feel inferior that ladies have higher qualification n earning more $ then guys which resulted in above...
    Asians in general does feel this.

    Guess its PRIDE ba....

    4) which in turn resulted guys outsourcing for spouses overseas?
    Outsourcing? ha ha ha... I like this... you are too engrossed in work. Take a break. Though marriage is sometimes an occupation...

    Thought marriage is once in a life time thing?

    5) Guys like to be commanding like to be above everything n control everything be it in life or in love...etc...
    People in general, especially those with lower self esteem and lacking self confidence wants control. This is applicable to any race colour or nationality. It is a global, human thing.

    Hmmm...but seems not the case when a guy gets married!

    6) Do ladies really mind or dun mind guys of a lower qualification n income?
    Reality check says yes. Not all the time, but most of the time.

    7) Is it the demand for equality in the society that ladies wanted to proof that whatever a guy can do they can also or to out perform guys or simply too career minded?(dun misunderstood me its ok to be career minded but not over)
    This is the same thing happening everywhere. But then again, the cost of living in most cities around the world is making both husband and wife having to work to make ends meet. A higher position in the company means more responsibility which in turn, when not handled properly will lead to a breakdown in the marriage. Applies to both men and women.

    SAD

    8) Or is it that the Reality over rules True love? (eg:no $ no talk, cost of living, guys must make the first move, being a divorce....etc)
    True love still exist. Just that it is getting more and more rare as each day goes by. Sad right?
    Sad but true!!! Hiazz...wat r we becoming of?

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    If she's cute, sexy and bubbly, 40 years old still ok what. But the problem here is does she want me in return.... sigh... there's goes my 1Ds Mark II. (woopss) just kidding....

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    1) Do our local guys have high expectation?

    I think so, but i dun... ya see... i dun really expect much, i dun go for looks, nor height, nor money, etc... ppl who know my u-know-who will know...

    2) Or is it the ladies have high expectation?

    i guess so, i know some who really no car no talk, and need guys thats at least above average looking, 1.75 minimum etc...


    3) Is it due to local guys really feel inferior that ladies have higher qualifiation n earning more $ then guys which resulted in above...

    hmm, when i know mine, i still studying for my degree... but then again, i'll feel inferior if my gf is a PhD and i am only a diploma, thats y i din date a PhD 1 last time...

    4) which in turn resulted guys outsourcing for spouses overseas?

    how i know... must be either they are desperate or something... and most of those adverts are misleading... and its only purely business as far as i know...

    5) Guys like to be commanding like to be above everything n control everything be it in life or in love...etc...

    sometimes i let girls ride on top of me, but most of them prefer to be lying down...

    ya know, end of the day, for me as a guy, i'd still like to go home & see my wife and sleep hopefully on the same bed rather than she is at some meeting or party that god knows wat she doing...


    6) Do ladies really mind or dun mind guys of a lower qualification n income?

    how i know... but den who will mind higher income & higher qualification? but who will say mind if guys lower income/qualification when asked?

    7) Is it the demand for equality in the society that ladies wanted to proof that whatever a guy can do they can also or to out perform guys or simply too career minded?(dun misunderstood me its ok to be career minded but not over)

    tat depends on their mindset, if they are those straight As ppl, then they're mostly out to proof themselves... but if they're those normal types, most likely they are working just for their basics and abit of surplus, then hope for nice family and such...


    8) Or is it that the Reality over rules True love? (eg:no $ no talk, cost of living, guys must make the first move, being a divorce....etc)

    in sg, most probably... cos ya know... next year 7%, go see movies maybe increase cost, then fuel increase cost, everything talk money... even banquet also increase cost... how to not talk money when everything origin and eventually faults from it?


    So Ladies n Gentlemen lets shoot....let our voices be heard!




    ps: appreciate not to OT too much thks! - this is a OT in itself...
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    Quote Originally Posted by FrogLAH View Post
    EH...I dont think so la..cos... i think this route of going Vietnam to get mate at old age can be travelled by both sex as it's paved by the amount of cash u have...no money no honey...haha..
    How realistic!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by ortega View Post
    it depends on what you are looking for in a spouse

    what is true love?
    Soul Mate?

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    Quote Originally Posted by centuryegg View Post
    The article was a joke, after it was published, she had 100 over suitors haha more likely suiting after her money! She did announce she is a millionaire. Women like her above 40 desperate for a man ( she did say how she called her ex hubby twice to ask for a patch back), when they get smitten with a guy, everything also can give him....
    I personally think it would be better if they dun annouce her as a millionaire! Maybe just say a successful biz women actually dat alone would do!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Canonised View Post
    One of the main reasons is that our Singapore aunties have very poor sense of dressing/make up/ manners/ thinking when they hit 40.
    Because of our Singapore's lifestyle, they worked very hard in their office, at home, talking care of their children, and leave very little time for themselves. They try to save money so that their children have better items in life, save to pay for their loans and mortgages, etc...
    Singapore women love their men because women normally "FEEL" love. Unfortunately MEN "visualise" love and thru physical activities. However our hardworking aunties have no more energy left for their husband ....
    If the forty-something Singapore aunties can make themselves look, feel and think like this 42 yo Chinese aunty (Jenny Xu) then I am sure they will give a hard time to the Vietnamese, Chinese, Thai, etc....
    http://www.flickr.com/photos/jenny-x...and/278592114/
    If u din say her age i tot she maybe in her early 30s

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    Quote Originally Posted by melvin View Post
    If u din say her age i tot she maybe in her early 30s
    damn right

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    How about the expectation of the ladies in the 40's, still want to marry some rich, good looking, matching or higher educated man? Or will she marry someone who are much lower qualify, e.g. much younger or older, earning much less than her, not good looking, shorter, may have some bad habits etc?

    I guess in Singapore woman most would rather than be single than marry low. Those men who match their standard probably all marry younger women or snatch up by other more qualify women long time ago.
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    Quote Originally Posted by furrycake View Post
    sad siah.. men 40 still got ppl want, but when women turned 40 then really got many nasty remarks. that's why they have a term 'spinster' mainly to describe 'lao gu por' but wat terms to give men over 40? diamond bachelor
    Ya... how sad!

    Maybe it is due to the terms come from the olden days when at that time is zhong nan qing nu, guys dominace thats why the term spinster or diamond bachelor

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    Quote Originally Posted by pai View Post
    heehee, 40 years old only is auntie already. so sad

    aiyah what to do, men so shallow. when they 25, chase 20yo. 35, still chase 20yo. 55, still want 20yo...
    Hmmm...got to ask those 50s err... do we have 50s guys around? Maybe u can provide the ans?

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    Quote Originally Posted by melvin View Post
    Hmmm...got to ask those 50s err... do we have 50s guys around? Maybe u can provide the ans?
    guys in 50s also prefer younger girls/women lar....

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sion View Post
    Chasers can be of any age as long as they got money.

    But the ones are being chased must be 20 something.
    They prefer high maintenace cost?

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    Default Re: Ladies above 40 difficult to find true love???

    Quote Originally Posted by evershine View Post
    One of the definitions of real/true love... you maybe interested in reading the following document.

    http://www.rbc.org/uploadedFiles/Bib..._real_love.pdf

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sion View Post
    Or Mongolia?
    Seems to be pretty HOT nowadays!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Autumnite View Post
    actually would be interesting to know also what ladies feel if their guy is earning less than them
    Ladies what do u say? Really like to hear from another point of view! Pls share!
    Thanks in advance!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Del_CtrlnoAlt View Post
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    [B]sometimes i let girls ride on top of me, but most of them prefer to be lying down...
    That figures as you're only a short robot.

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