Whats the fuss about foreign talents? They take your money send back to their country and if their country declares war on Sg then some of those bullet fired comes from your pocket. You think like that song meh? Cool lah. These talents helps to build the nation.
For Nokia's issue, you married the girl you choose and you created the child that carries your surname. So now **** happens and you want to shake things off. The way you put it is like the child is something expendable for you to weight it against Sg citizenship.
“How fortunate for leaders that men do not think.” - Adolf Hitler
Yes if you are out of your mind.
I found all of the above post, advising conselling, best wishes to patch up, and pressure to maintain the status quo, very unsettling. None of us knew exactly what causes the deterrioation of the relationship. We just assumed any brokern relation can be mend, should be fix, and must be reconcilled.
Assuming that the husband and wife do foce themselves to stay together, in a marriage they want no part of, tell me how is that a good enviroment for the child? It will not be a happy household. Is that the enviroment you want to bring up your child in?
I think the child is screwed either way. However, if after divorced, the parent who ended up with the child can lead a happier life, and mybe settle down again in a new and happy relationship/family, the child is much better off.
I found people who give these thous must at all cost keep the family together advise are ill advised themselves.
Been reading through all of these posts and I agree with Deadpoet, there are a lot of reasons for divorce, and staying together may be a much worse situation. As such my comments are based on the assumption that the divorce is or has already happened, and there is no turning back.
I think the issue here is the real reason for getting married in the first place and the reason for getting the Singapre citizenship.
- Was the marriage for the main purpose of getting the Singapore citizenship, because career opportunities are better here?
- Or, was the marriage for the purpose of having a life together with someone else and starting a family together, and Singapore just happened to be the prefered choice of country, as compared to Nokia's home country?
If it is the former, than you figure out whether you are better off here, even after paying child support, or going back to wherever you are from and working there. If it is still better here than stay, you've acheived your objective, though a lot of citizens would tell you to bugger off as you are not the type of people we want. If after child support it is financially better going back, than go.
If it is the latter, and after a while here you have grown to like living in Singapore, than that's another matter.
Is the decision only based on the potential financial implications of paying for child support? Or are the emotional scars also a factor of not wanting to stay here any longer, even though the work opportunities are better. Only you will know.
Last but not least, do not assume that those who gave advises are themselves "ill advised". We can never know what someone else have been thru and the experiences they can share to make others lifes more fruitful ....
You have your own mindset, perspective and life philosophy that makes you different from the rest, but dun jump to conclusion .....