One less intimidating way of getting info out of him is simply to ask "What are your requirements?" Simple. Let him fill you in first and then you continue from there. From what I can tell, it seemed more like you were interviewing him instead.
Yeah, I agree about not working for such people. The worse thing is that his bad manners and lack of respect for people will rub into you - if you hang around with him in that relationship.Originally Posted by sfhuang
A set of good manners is your million dollar asset to safeguard. Photo assistant skills are cheap and easy to acquire.
If the photographer made the approach, then he should 'give face' if he was asked questions in return. If the photographer fears for his reputation at stake, then maybe he should offer his number and card in the first place, if the person is interested or have enquiries...will get back to him.
Why create chances to put down each other on the spot infront of people? Ego boost?
I think you are taking it too seriously. To me its just a bad chat session due to "different wavelength"?
Nothing wrong asking questions. Its like looking for a job, to many it may seems that the job seeker is at the mercy of the potential employer, but this is not the right mindset. Both parties have to get to a win-win situation. I personally feel that its even worse when you start a job not knowing what you are getting into and can't even stay through the probation period. That being said, you have to be humble too.
Firstly, IMHO, there is nothing wrong with asking about your job scope on the spot, since he was the one who approached you there and then and asked you if you were interested.Originally Posted by allcowsmoo
Pure and simple, if he is professional, he will not make such simplistic comments and be a namby-pamby fellow and just cast aspersions on you just because you wanted to clarify.
Secondly, if he cannot even bother to answer you, then you can assume that he is either wasting your time or he thinks too highly of himself, which by then you can safely assume that working for him might not be too fruitful.
Last but not least, people who treat others with derision because of age, are just not open-minded enough.And if he is a professional photographer, that sort of attitude does not bode well.If I were him, I would simply ask, and then offer to discuss to my prospective assistant over coffee, and not react so flippantly over some questions that a person of my expertise should be able to answer easily and without offence.
My two cents.
We live in an age when unnecessary things are our only necessities. - Oscar Wilde
If you skip just to the last part about him walking off, that is VERY unprofessional all by itself. This is purely an attitude problem and you are better off without it. I'm a little disappointed that some believe this attitude is perfectly acceptable.
Anyway, I imagine that if a photographer really wants to offer you a REAL opportunity, he will give you his namecard and answer your questions later, if he cannot do so now. But since he got upset by your legitimate questions, I think he is expecting a cheap PA. Worst, he may not even pay you what he quoted you later on. There have been a few incidents here about these kind of things.
As some have said, yours is a one-sided narrative so if this is really what have happened, the above is my comment.