To each his own. You are entitled to your requirements for your wife. I do ask mine to carry my tripod for me on occasion, but the default option is always that I handle my own gear. It is after all my hobby, etc. It is already good enough that she accompanies me along with those photography trips, no need to make it even more unbearable by giving her things to carry. Similarly, on shopping trips, unless she needs her hands free, she carries what she buys, unless it is unbearably heavy. Marriage is about mutual respect after all.
That said, if she happened to be a bodybuilder who can do 80 pullups at one go, then naturally I would expect her to carry everything all the time.
In any case, thinking that the guy is lucky because his wife carries his tripod for him is a little too hasty, don't you think? Maybe the guy looks at your wife, and feels that you are lucky because of her other virtues. It's not very different from camera gear in a sense, the grass is always greener on the other side but at the end of the day we choose what we choose and live with the shortcomings while embracing the pluses. Yes, maybe some wives cook better than others, etc, I do not think that it is wrong to state factually that A excels at some aspect better than B. But your wishing that your wife was the same to carry your gear for you does beg the question - why did you choose your wife in the first place? Surely you'd have known that she wasn't the sort to carry gear for you.. Life's too short to sit around and compare what you have to everyone else all the time.. You will just end up always coveting more, picking and choosing the best of everything when you can't have it all. That's definitely not a healthy thing to do..
By the way, it is also untrue that all pretty girls will not carry tripods if you ask them to (I would like to think that my wife is pretty, for instance). Cheers!
As you have pointed out, there are other things like cooking, etc. I may look at others' wives and say, "wa, so intelligent", "wa, so sexy", at the end of the day, I had my reasons for choosing my wife, and I hope everyone does too. Envying small small things like having a personal tripod and equipment mule seems quite redundant in the grander scheme of things - life's more than about photography, and I would like to think that our chosen companions have virtues that we embraced in the first place, along with their shortcomings.
If it was THAT important to me that my wife carry my tripod and equipment, I would have tested it out before marriage. If it didn't work, or if she backs out after marriage, then if it is THAT important, then there is always an option to part ways. If it is not so important and I gladly overlooked it when I chose her, then talking about envying others seems a bit like bellyaching. In some ways, I would think that my wife would be quite sad if she read about me talking about envying others for having wives to carry their things.
There is no such thing as a perfect camera, there is also no such thing as a perfect wife. Cheers!
Envious. You can be envious of a friend whose wife makes excellent bento set for him to bring to work daily. You can be envious of a friend whose wife is rich. No such thing as small thing, nothing to be envious about. Grander thing, can envious. To tell u the truth, I used to be envious of a friend girlfriend, a graduate from mechanical engineering, who knows tons about car engines and eletrical wirings at home. Just like photography, some like to snap grander things like Marina Bay Sands, some like to snap pics of old folks in Chinatown. Its definitely personal preference.
I guess no one can tell you that it's wrong to envy someone's <whatever>, and I'm not here to judge anyone's opinion either.
I just want to highlight that sometimes it's pointless to envy. I used to envy someone's gf, but somehow as life goes on, it happened that his wife (from that same gf) passed away, leaving him alone to care for the family. Do I envy his life now? I doubt so.
Try stop to envy what you don't have, since it might not last forever or turn out as what you hope it would be in the future.
A true photograph need not be explained, nor can it be contained in words.
On a coin, there's always 1 up 1 down.. when you flip it, the possibilities of it landing on the floor in the centre is close to 0%.
I guess it's the way you put it across.. Just chill abit, step back and see from another point of view, words are pretty sensitive.. & most human(including myself) read selectively.. So choose your words and make them out nicely ok?
I'm definitely not drafting out a $10 million contract.. haha.. words can't express out emotion.. thus I have the tendency to add it emotionally words like, LOL, haha.. All these does help out a little bit..
Anyway, my gf also carry my equipment for me at times when we need to walk for a distance. (she's small sized and I'm big sized) but.. I have back issues.. thus she will carry for me occasionally and I'll take over from time to time as well..
Like rotation carry lor.. since when she go shopping and I don't have my camera, I'll take her shopping bags. Like what one of the guys mentioned, mutual respect and assisting one and other.
Lastly, just chill and enjoy photos.. Afterall we are at ClubSnap.. Not EmotionSnap..
Think the wife is an ex-golf caddy.
If you are a hawker frying char kuay tiao for the past 30 yrs & u finally retire, probably you'll miss your tools of the trade & hence still mimicking the action while sleeping or standing still
Take the shot!
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